OK, there is this girl I'm after, but she is refusing to meet with me in person,(we met at work, though she's not there anymore, but she was clearly into me) at least for now. We haven't even been on a date of any sort or even hung out.
We haven't been in a relationship, but I want her. We have been in contact on another site, and for various reasons I sent her some pretty nasty messages, and she told me not to contact her. She hasn't blocked me on there. I'm not going to contact her, at least not for a while yet, but I will eventually.
Thing is, I want to apologize and explain why I reacted to her message the way I did and why I said what I did, and what I really think of her.
But how can I do this via the internet without looking or feeling like a complete penis, whilst at the same time trying to win her over again and gently persuading her to meet with me in person again?
And please, please don't tell me to forget her and move on, because that's not going to happen, at least for now.
When I message her again a a while, it really will be the last shot, then I'll leave it alone. I've been single about year and a half, her about 6 months.
It's not that I want her, I want to be with her.
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I can actually relate to some of this, from the opposite side. Do you have an email address for her? If you've been really nasty then you should stay away from her, sounds like you've hurt her feelings quite a bit and she may just get angry at you and the communication will go awry. Best thing you can do is write it down, your explaination for how you behaved, and how you feel about her etc. Don't get too bogged down in feelings over email though, don't confess undying love or anything but tell her you do care for her etc and would like to pursue something with her. Tell her you are sorry for hurting her feelings etc. Explain all this on an email and let her take it in and give her bit of time to reply. Just say your piece, and let it lie. If what you have said has made an impact, she will understand and forgive you. Believe me, I know. But you must be sincere, and let your male pride go out the window. This whole "without looking like a total penis" things has to be put away at least for now while you are trying to redeem yourself and get her to trust you. You have hurt her feelings, get over your pride and show her sincerely you care for her. If you don't she won't trust you with her feelings anymore.
Can I ask - why you said such nasty things to her if you clearly are really taken by her and won't get over her?2
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