Why do most good looking guys have ugly girlfriends?

Question

OK so like 85% of the hot guys I know have "ugly" Girl Friends?

I know that I have no right calling some one "ugly" but I mean like most the girl. . . You should look at and be like "why his he with her"

so yea. . . I don't really know if there's an answer to my question, but yea. . .

BlackOrchid · Accepted Answer

It depends really as I have wondered the same (I don't see your question as that of being a bitch btw it's an observation and we come from a society where however much we wish it didn't go first and foremost on looks then after personality with the media the way it is today it's drummed into us girls/guys have to be stunning/slim to be considered pretty which f***s me off big time, in an ideal world we would get to know each other first and physical looks wouldn't even register but sadly we don't live in that world) I don't consider myself remotely pretty I'm more of a plain jane that can scrub up nicely but nothing stunning to the levels of some of my friends (male and female) luckily I know a lot of it comes down to how a person holds themselves and their personailty and I have learnt not to judge (my wondering is only fleeting when it does happen and I've always been put to shame for having through it for just that second when I have gotten to know the other person) though sometimes I do wonder what I'M doing wrong when I have no one lol sure occasionally someone will give chase but really I think I'm just not girlfriend material.

I think the most beautiful of people are the ones who not only were made to feel they weren't pretty but developed their personalities in school/college when all the obviously pretty people (NOT ALL) were made to feel they were perfect so didn't have to make any effort on any level while the ones made to feel like outcasts learnt such better skills and learnt to not judge for their looks but what counts on the inside. They don't realise how beautiful they are inside and out which makes them aaaaall the more beautiful/stunning.

A lot of good looking guys/gals may find other pretty guys/gals intimidating especially if they have been brought up knowing they are pretty and made to feel important for it the "lesser" pretty (who in fact are just as pretty on one level or another) are more relaxed and open to meeting and making friends and chatting to people without judgement or wondering where it's gonna lead because their expectations and experiences are completely different making it easier for said pretty pursuers to pursue them lol

okay my words are not making sense so I'm shutting up.

Sorry.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I know what you're trying to say and it IS true. Obviously, some guys don't put much emphasis on looks as they do in personality. One person's "5" is another person's "9" Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder...

BUT for the most part, I think guys turn into a bunch of pansies when they're around a really beautiful, hot, and SMART girl. The fear of rejection, being intimidated, and their own personal insecurities is what stops them from making a move. My best friend is gorgeous and has no problem getting a guy's attention. However, once they get to know her and realize she's not an idiot and can hold a conversation, they seem to jet. They say they want the whole package but sometimes they can't handle it.

I think this quotes is a great answer to be honest:

"Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. Most men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they sometimes take the apples from the ground that, aren't as good, but easy. The apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, they're amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the one who is brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree."

danielle1715 · Accepted Answer

I don't think your shallow you are only being honest and I agree. But anyways me and my friends always say he could do so much better. I mean we are happy for so and so but you can't help but wonder. Especially when you think your better looking and she's the one with the boyfriend oh well. I know it sounds mean but as a girl you can't help but be a little jealous.

And anyways there has to be something more then looks obviously friendship trust all that is more important then looks anyway.

CaptainFrost · Accepted Answer

haha

good question. Its not that that the hotter guys don't want to go for the hotter girls, Its that they are way harder to get and many guys do not think that it is worth the trouble of chasing a girl in this day and age.

A hot girl will almost never approach a guy or display signs that she likes him. They are usually attracted to the guys who already have girlfriends with the whole preselection thing. Or the guy has to demonstrate so great skills or something in order for her to find him sexy.

Girls who aren't as beautiful will more often take the risk of going for a guy and they actually end up with the guys they want more than beautiful women do. They also give the guys the benefit of the doubt more often and get to know him before he displays his skills or whatever added benefit he has which makes him attractive. Prettier girls usually have to see his value before giving him a chance.

Why are girls atrracted to celebrities like Justin Timberlake when they don't even know him. Its because theyve seen his skills and value, so they can be attracted without getting to know him first.

I wouldn't go as far as to say beautiful women are bitches, because usually once you get their shield down they are very pleasant people. But the ability to attract a wider variety of men has led them to expecting big things and want instant gratification as to what a guy is capable of rather than getting to know him.

When a beautiful woman does get to know a guy then she can become attracted by finding out his value later, like how less beautful looking girls do. This is how you sometimes see hotties with very average or ugly looking guys.

rando-shi · Accepted Answer

because all the hot girls are with the ugly man

Ephram · Answer

Most pretty girls are way too conceited, and have a "you're lucky that you're with me" mentality, which is horrible. They might not have it to the same extent, but it's still there. That's why some guys, like me, prefer girls who are at least a LITTLE bit insecure. Because the more you love yourself, the less you'll care if other people love you. And I don't want to go out with a girl who doesn't value the fact that I love her.

Also, pretty girls think they don't have to try so much in a relationship. They think just because they look good, they don't have to work as hard in order to maintain the spark, which is a terrible mistake to make.

So in the end, it's not that guys go out with "ugly" girls. Every guy has standards when it comes to looks. If a girl barely meets those standards, but has an awesome personality, the guy will go out with her.

For example, I set my standards ridiculously low when it comes to liking gamer chicks, or girls who are curious and easy to talk to. They don't have to look anywhere near the girl of my dreams - I'll be asking them out as soon as I get the courage. xD

anonymousforever · Answer

Because we are not as shallow as you. If hot girls didn't try to get by on just their looks, and where not so high maintenance, bitchy, selfish, ignorant etc. then you would get your pick of us hot guys. Average girls treat us well, are willing to put equal effort into a relationship, and make us feel great. To you, beauty is skin deep. If its just a hook up looks are enough. if we have to deal with you for any period of time, then you need to bring something else to the table and need to behave yourself. We have our choice of women and we will not put up with the crap that a lot of girls think they can shell out to everyone in the world. I wish it wasn't true, but a lot of the "hot girls" are as ugly as they come on the inside.

The_Box · Answer

This deserves a second answer.

First of all, even if you weren't trying to be a bitch, the fact is you posted something incredibly obnoxious and didn't apologize. So yeah, because of that, now you're a bitch.

Second, the fact that you judge couples based on looks is shallow. The fact that you think something big is wrong with a ugly girl being with a hot guy suggests that all you think about in relationships are looks.

Third, when people come up with the plausible explanation that a lot of pretty girls are bitches, you shoot them down. You insist on your opinion and refuse to compromise in a very bitchy way. I agree that not all pretty girls are bitches, but from what I've seen, YOU certainly are a bitch.

I wonder if that was unnecessary overkill... maybe, oh well. I might be a jerk, but you're still a bitch.

Marshall33 · Answer

You are definitely a shallow person but to answer your question let me do so without considering that fact. Good looking people are human beings who want to be adored for who they are and not how they were born and when they discover that all that interested another person to them was their looks they get sad and disinterested in those shallow people. So called ugly people feel lucky to have the good looking partner want to be there with them and dthus treat them better than good looking people do. Good looking people are used o the feeling of being wanted and feeling special so they end up looking at what they do not naturally get which is pure admiration and ugly people give them that.

surferstud · Answer

I've dated super super hot girls, and not so hot or downright ugly girls. My experience: I've had the hottest sex with the uglies, they would read my most secret phantasies straight off my mind, without me even have to say a word. Plus from my experience they are usually super funny, entertaining, honest, fair, good communicators, creative and smart - while sex with the hot girls is dull, repetitive and boring, it's more like masturbating on how hot they are. Some of the "hot" girls were kind of "acting" sex, repeating moves they saw in p*rn flics or something. So basically it was fake and weird-ish. I don't want that for longer relationships. I'll date an ugly girl over a so-called "hot" one - ANY-TIME!

Alistair · Answer

my girlfriend is just hot enough to have guys check her out but that's about it, she isn't that like really amazing hot like one of those popular girls at school or anything, I think the answer to your question is that the really hot girls tend to be bitches or play games with guys while the average girl doesn't (certain ones might but not the majority) and really hot girls seem to only want guys who are on their level which is just shallow

Marshall33 · Answer

I think it is because attractive people may be attractive to others bt like everyone else they may not know it inside themselves. What a human being needs most is not to be told they are hot but that they are appreciated and maybe less attractive partners give attractive partners a snse that they feel lucky being with them nd actually appreciate the fact they like them whereas having an attractive partner may not be comforting because they could leave faster for someone else's approval and not be appreciative of their attractive partner. Guys enjoy being admired by those who feel good being with them NOT others' sense that they should be with someone as attractive as them.

Mesonfielde · Answer

Because other than that your name clearly indicates (69? oh wow) that you are not exactly the... least promiscous girl at your region, probably your judgement of that girl is incorrect, as she gets the guy, and you don't. Possibly you think you are so pretty because you wear tons of makeup, whlie she just looks decent naturally, and doesn't need to hate on others and create a false image of her appearance merely to boost her own self-esteem.

Anyways, they are attractive, you are not. Your jealousy solves nothing.

ArizonaRX · Answer

lol, by your estimation 85% of guys aren't as shallow as you seem to be by this post.

85% of guys seem to not care if their girlfriends are picture perfect like your teen magazines tell you you have to be.

Anonymous · Answer

Just because you see someone as hot doesn't mean they see themselves that way. Nearly everyone has some degree of insecurity. These "hot" guys might think they have their equal match.

As has already been pointed out a lot of (not all!) very attractive girls are conceited which makes them unattractive, even to hot guys. The slightly less hot looking girls with a great personality become even more attractive that the conceited super hot looking ones.

Also dating a really hot guy/girl is hard work, they often get hit on pretty much constantly which means they have other 'opportunities' shoved in their faces every day. Think about a celeb you fancy, I'm sure you would love to meet them but imagine dating them with all those millions of screaming female fans desperate to get with him, MAJOR HEADACHE! and more often than not never worth it. Finding someone that is slightly off the radar can be much better.

coolgurl09 · Answer

Well, sweetie this website is all about honesty so you should have thought clearly prior to posting this question. Of course you're going to get tons or angry responses. WHo's to say another girl who sees you with your boyfriend/guyfriend isn't thinking the samething. Beauty  is truly in the eyes of the beholder. Be careful with your words, you are too young to be so cold-hearted and mean. You belong on that movie "mean girls" with Linsey lohan, haha mean girl.

peace-love-couture · Answer

People who call other people "ugly" are insecure and have their own personal issues to deal with.

Anyways,not everything in a relationship is about looks.A person can be gorgeous/sexy and have a dull personality.

Beauty IS in the eye of the beholder.What you consider beautiful isn't what everyone else in the world considers beautiful.

Not all guys are shallow or focused on looks.Many do go for personality

Xenophobia · Answer

It's because good looking girls always think a good looking guy is a player. The "ugly" girls are more willing to give the guy a chance only to find out that he's a great guy.

I guess you could say that some girls miss out on oppurtunities because they overanalyze and there prejudging gets the best of them

janelov · Answer

girl I wonder the same too... I am not a bitch either and people here need to NOT take the question too personal... we all talk about other people's appearance... we all have eyes and opinion and we all at some point comment about others... and its not being shallow either! but anyways, beauty is in the eye of the beholder...

Professor_Zoom · Answer

This goes for guys and girls. The more attractive you are, the less you have to work on your personality. The less attractive you are, the more you have to work on your personality. So, it could be that these good looking guys fell in love with the personalities of these "ugly" girls. Plus, they may have to be more extroverted than the attractive girls because they need to attract attention to them somehow.

Anonymous · Answer

Hot girls don't tend to have the personality. Most guys I know how gfs that are cute, but not overly gorgeous, with freakin awesome personalities. The fact that you're putting yourself in the "hot' category when you comment on answers, and the fact that you call other girls ugly leads me to believe you're quite full of yourself and put too much emphasis on looks. you sound like a perfect example of why guys don't go for hot girls

tigerguy · Answer

you want to know why, ok because girls who are generally obviouly hot play the hard to get game because they beleive the guy should do the chasing and girls think she all that so some guys go for what they can get, now I'm not saying these are the ugly girls but at least the girls who they are going out with gave them the time of day to take them out and let the guys be with them

Nijababe99 · Answer

this is not even a question this is an opinion nd just because yu think their ugly does not eman theboys thinks that 2 ...its like saying a girl telling ur boyfrined y do yu go out with that ugly girl cause I'm sure other people dnt think ur ugly ...so there is not answer 2 this question

MsNikki_Nicole · Answer

idk why everyone jumping on ur case for this can't ask it too much nicer...your not the first to ask this I here it all the time for people I dnt know and friends..everyone thinks I'm better lookin then mu boyfriend and they'll ask why do all hot girls have ugly douchbag boyfriends

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe because not all guys are completely shallow...They like the person so they are with them. They may not be the best looking girls but they have something that attracted them to their boyfriend. Looks are nice but there's more important things out there.  Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

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