yea I know it s gonna be first world problems but still xD OK so I have this group of friends in my new univ. cool people... not to sound arrogant though but I have a lot of friends, and a lot that I consider closer. so this group isn t taking summer like I am and they always wanna do plans with me. it s like I am their main choice now and they don t go unless we re all together. it s irritating me a lot in the end. they start planning like a week or 2 before what they wanna do. and if I go out with them on Tuesday then they wanna do smthng on Thursday and then Friday. after they tell me they wanna do smthng on Sunday. and it s always like that. and they are really insistent it s annoying and they get upset too. I mean how can I make them understand in a nice way that I have other plans and friends too. it s like I am in a relationship with them I swear xD
You don't have to attend every single one of those events or follow up every invitation. Those calendars can get full if it's a very big group of friends. It'll also tend to help them get excited when you do attend.
It's like in a relationship -- you don't necessarily want to do *everything* 24/7 with your boyfriend. It helps to balance it out and have your own plans every now and then.
It's best to say that you have something else planned, they'll soon get used to you not always doing what they want. Friendships where everything is mandatory are not the nicest ones... Those where you can count on them no matter what and where you have a good time together from time to time, without obligations, are the best :D
You can tell some lies like you have ''family issues'' to be dealt with or something :D I know it happend to me aswell, I was always had to find some excuses so whenever they asked me out I always said ''Nah man I need to get my mom and dad from airport'' or ''My cousin will visit me in few days so I must make the house ready for him'' it works believe me ;D
One simple word will solve your problems: No. They ask you to hang and you don't want to, just say "no" You can even tell a white lie here and there and say you have previous engagements. You could also be honest and say "I feel like were hanging out a little too much." They're your friends the'll understand. Trust me, I use to be such a people pleaser, and sometimes I think my life would have been a little less stressful if i just said "no" once in a while.
Tell them you want to chill for some time before going out for events and all that. Tell them you had a tough school year and this is your time to rest but you'll join them out eventually. In sure they'll understand.