so I've been seeing this guy a lot at this hotel I'm staying at. he's here with his family from what I've seen and I'm here with mine. anyways, whether I'm at the pool or just walking around, I notice him here and there looking at me from far away, and then once we go to pass each other, or he walks past where I'm at, I would think he would look at me and at least smile. no, he just looks straight ahead and keeps walking like his split personality kicks in all a sudden and he doesn't see me. I don't know what his deal is? I'm confused. starting to get a little discouraged, I want to talk to him, but I'm completely unsure of what's going through his mind.
GUYS, HELP ME OUT!
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Sounds to me like he's shy. If he's looking at you from a distance but not when you get close he doesn't want to make direct eye contact. Some guys find making direct eye contact uncomfortable because they don't want to make it seem as though they are gawking at the girl that they like.
I used to do this in first year, I'll look at a girl from a distance and if I found her attractive I'd shoot my eyes away to prevent making eye contact. I can't tell you why I did this, maybe because I think she'd think that I was just staring at her funny and give me a dirty look. It's hard to get past initially, but now I have no problem maintaining eye contact with a girl as she walks past. It's most likely either a confidence thing, or he's just shy and doesn't know how to look at you in a manner that would suggest he likes you. He'd be afraid of staring too much, or looking away at the wrong time hurting his chances.
Then again, not making eye contact doesn't really give him any chances, it actually sends mixed signals but still it's just hard for some guys to build this confidence up. Like I said, I used to be like this and now I have no problem having enough confidence to stare a girl straight in the eye without feeling intimidated by an attractive girl like I used to.1