My girlfriend wants me to cut my hair?

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My hair is kind of long right now. It just barely touches my shoulders in the back and gets shorter towards the front and I have long bangs that are a little past my eyes. I don't really know how else to explain it. I really like it though and it took months to grow out from a really bad haircut I got. I've always wanted to try having longer hair and I found out I like it a lot but my girlfriend hates it. She has been begging me to let her cut it. She says I'll look a lot better if I let her cut it off and that it really needs to be cut. I want her to be attracted to me and I want to make her happy but I don't want it cut and I especially don't want her messing it up and having to shave it. I think she wants it shaved anyways by the way she was talking about it and saying it would look good like that. She told me if I really loved her I'd let her do it though so should I just let her do it?

aWes0MeNeSs · Accepted Answer

No, you do what you want with it. It is your hair, not hers. The whole "if you really loved me, you would..." thing is classic manipulation, and if she really loves you, she will accept you with your long hair and not pressure you to change it if you like it.
I had a boyfriend that wanted me to cut my hair too, but he eventually stopped asking once he realized it wasn't going to happen. If you really like your hair, keep it! Don't cut it for someone else, especially since that person could be out of your life tomorrow.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Do whatever you want with your hair. If you like it, don't listen to her.

anonman32 · Accepted Answer

dude, why would you ever change yourself because others want to? thats not good for your integrity. if you were a pink user 20 women on here would have said HELL NAW DONT CUT YOUR HAIR FO ANYONE. so i dont see why you should cut your hair for your girlfriend if girls dont want to cut their hair for their boyfriend.

ritxi · Accepted Answer

You should think about how your relationship with her is. I mean if you are happy with her and she takes care about you. If your answer is yes, you can consider sacrificing your hair and letting her cut it, because she will reward you for it.

nitsuj86 · Answer

I would say just cut your hair. It's just hair, it will grow back. Sure you may like it a certain way, but you really aren't the one looking at it all day. She is.

If she got a haircut, that you hated and made her look less attractive would you want her to change it for you? If had a dress or outfit you don't like, and you asked her not to wear it, would you want her to listen?

What I would do is, cut your hair... and file it away for when she does something that YOU don't like. Like her hair, or an outfit, etc... Then you can pull that card to get her to stop. Could be a back-and-forth, but compromise is part of a relationship.

Some people would say it's controlling and blah blah blah, but they are probably single. Do what she asks, but if she doesn't return the favor, I would grow that hair out and never look back lol.

Anonymous · Answer

I met my boyfriend with a clean shaven face because of his job, but he likes his beard so when he had the chance to let it grow we talked about it. He knew i dont like beard on guys. He said he would let it grow and see maybe i would end up liking it so i said yes. I still preferred a clean shaven face even though he still looked good to me. He still shaved because he knew it would make me happy. I didn't have to nag or beg him for it. It meant so much to me.

In return it made me wanna do something for him too. I guess this situation it would just depend how much you wanna make her happy. Not trying to make you feel guilty, but its the truth. If you really dont want to cut it, doesn't mean you love her any less, just let her know that.

EricSummer · Answer

I think cutting your hair is an easy thing you can do to please her. Do you really want to look a certain way "for yourself" for example when looking into the mirror? I think it's always mainly for the others who look at you, and your girlfriend matters most among them.

mcmanly · Answer

Tell her she's right and that the other girls out there will definitely notice you and how much better you look! My dad used to nag me about my hair when I was young and he made me get a brush cut. My wife and I have been having some marital troubles lately and for the first time in a while I came in the door feeling really good about seeing her and one of the first go-to items for her is telling me to get my hair cut. Fuckin Rreally!! is what I wanted to say. I'm a bad spouse I guess and here's another reason for her to get in another dig about me... at least its just my appearance this time... oh wait, I know... its because she cares about me soooo much she wants me to be classy and presentable to the world so as not to make a bad impression. Scuze me while I find a bucket to vommit in.

Harry797 · Answer

Let her do it bro, sacrifice your hair for the woman you love. They'll grow back again.

KittyKat90210 · Answer

If she loves you then she'll be happy with you doing what you want. She can have her opinion but how you look is completely your decision.

Anonymous · Answer

Go to a barber or hair salon and pick out a nice styled haircut in a picture that you and your girlfriend agree on, shorter hair looks better on guys anyway

SusanColleen · Answer

I do cut my husbands hair, and he performs my bikini area shave. Fair is fair

Anonymous · Answer

Classic shit test and remember this: There are only 2 things that make a woman unhappy. 1) Getting what she wants. 2) Not getting what she wants.

gemini9 · Answer

My hair is long as well. It reaches the middle of my back. Fits my image tho. Lead singer in a band can't have short hair. It's an unspoken rule.

Anonymous · Answer

Lol red flag, dump her rn. she's manipulative liar and dont do it, it's your hair your choice

teawrecks · Answer

She kunds manipulative. No.

LuukeStarkilller91 · Answer

If you want to do it, do it. If you don't want to do it, don't do it.

crazygiantlargegreen · Answer

Shave it down to a nice and short buzzcut to satisfy your girlfriend. I am sure antics will ensue in the bedroom...

SoFeckinAddicted · Answer

Do what you want. Stop being such a pansy.

Anonymous · Answer

Compromise and get a mullet

Anonymous · Answer

let her cut it

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

Nope.

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