I think boneless skeletal hit it on the head when he said " They do NOT want to appear too interested. (Yes, a guy will probably think you're interested if you stare at him.)"
If the average woman looked ever guy in the eye when she was walking across campus she would never make it to class cause half of the guys would stop and talk to her! I mean seriously think about that. What would it be like if ever woman you walked by looked you in the eye? You would be thinking "Damn I'm glad I spent that extra $5 on these jeans cause I must be looking good today!"
I look women strangers in the eye more than I do male strangers cause men really do take you looking them in the eye as a sign you are interested in them. Even if you are trying just to be friendly.
Also, sometimes I do the look away thing when it's clear the guy and I have been looking at each other from a distance but when it's up close I make it clear I'm not interested by looking away. But I do also do it if I am looking at a good looking guy and I don't want him to know I was looking. So it's both sides of a coin for me. But I've never looked away cause I thought a guy was ugly or something.
If you are interested in a specific girl, next time you walk by her smile, say hi, and keep moving. It means no pressure that it will turn into a 10 minute conversation and you made it OK for her to say hi or smile next time she sees you. I think any woman loves a friendly hello from a guy.
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girls do this to temp you to look at them and take interest in them which on the other hand means that THEY are interested in you and you MUST ask them out.it'll sure be success.
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they do this to show that they are not interested in you and that they are really cool.now,why do they do this? because they already have noticed you and if you go and talk to them it'll boost up their ego+u sure will get some cool chances to date them(if you like them).it'll also increase the chance of them growing fond of u.
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haha.. I do this to any and every guy I walk by at school, especially when I'm trekking long distance outside. It's just like a reflex. hotness or ugliness has nothing to do with it. I'm just a weirdo I think.. I just kind of feel like looking at a guy straight in the eyes as we're closing in on each others' space is like way too aggressive. Kind of like how you don't want to get really still and stare into a wild dogs eyes, or that awkward tension of wild-west gunslingers staring each other down waitin for the next moment... lol.
Funny thing is, this happens to guys too!
I've seen many a nice looking girl in my life, and whenever I saw someone I felt attracted to, I always found myself looking away from them whenever she got near me! I think it was probably because I was afraid my retina would get fried seeing her up close lol
Dude I've had this thought many times...I for one believe that it's an in built fear. Basically if you're a normal guy (decent size) she'll no doubt be somewhat awed by your presence. It isn't because you're ugly or ungood looking haha. At that moment she thinks nothing of you, good or bad.
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If someone tells me I am good-looking, I've learned to question their mental and emotional state. Are they desperate, lonely, or what? You see, I've been conditioned by the girls who look away when I walk by, reject a friendly gesture, or are outright rude. As a result, I figured I must look intimidating and am not anywhere near attractive. Or they see me as attractive and someone who uses my looks as a player to exploit women. Could I actually be that good-looking?
I've never seen myself as good-looking because I didn't want to get caught up in the vanity games the egos play, so I pretty much ignored that part of myself. Only recently have I concluded that I am good-looking, but still only a 7 or 8. Someone told me I was good-looking, and I couldn't find anything wrong with them. So I looked at all my past relationships, even acquaintances (which were most revealing), and it kind of makes sense now. However, as a result of my experiences with what I thought was rejection, I never married. I learned to be independent and content by myself (a good thing).
Now it is the other way around; I am perhaps overly cautious, as my standards for a relationship have heightened beyond the norm. And I look down or away when I see a girl looking at me, not wanting to encourage them.
its not a bad thing at all! I'm shy so I always do it with any guy...theres an old saying about it too something about 'dropping ur gaze in front of a noble man' I don't know lol but it can be several reasons, he can be strikingly hot and cute and id nervously look down and blush because if I look directly at him itll be weird and awkward and he might find me creepy or even just be turned off...or I just don't know him and its hard to be intimate like that with a stranger...its also about if you don't really see a possible future with them, especially after walking by them just that one time, then there's no energy or point in giving the eyes is there? only if you see that person around then its a good start to begin the flirting...but otherwise its just a proper/ladylike/polite/shy behavioral characteristic really.
It's a bit of a shy thing but also eye contact is rather intimate and if you do not personally know the girl she will look away. I know a thing like eye contact seems like something small but the eyes aren't called the window to the soul for no reason.
In my experience, girls only look away if they're attracted and like the guy they're watching. Often it's because they don't want to stare or are just too shy. I often find myself doing this if I like the guy but I don't feel I know him well enough.
For me, when I look at someone (girl or guy) and notice that they look at me, I look away just because I'm not sure if they'll think I'm being rude and because in some cases with guys, the guy is attractive but I don't want them to know I was looking at them. haha.
Me, personally, when that happens, it's because I don't want to stare. The guy I like (and the guys I usually like) are almost always my really good guy friends. So, if they look at me, I'm okay to keep eye contact... Then again, it depends on the guy, etc. I'm also extremely shy, and even sometimes when the person I like looks at me in the halls, even though we're friends, I still won't look at them. Then again, I'm a strange, confusing person ^_^ haha
They only guys I look away from when I walk are the ones I think are hot and I look away because I don't want them to think I'm staring at them. If I don't think you're hot I could care less what you think when I walk by
sometimes if I c a guy I like or kinda like I ignore him on purpose (cuz I'm weird :P) I just don't wanna b real obvious if they look away its because theyr shy or don't want you to get the wrong idea or they like you it really just dependson the girl
From the girls' comments below I understand:
a) It is rude to stare.
b) They are shy.
c) They do NOT want to appear too interested. (Yes, a guy will probably think you're interested if you stare at him.)
d) They think the guy is hot and they ARE interested but nervous.
In other words, they almost always avoid eye contact with strangers, whatever the reason.They're shy, they're afraid it might be considered rude or they don't want to look like they were too interested. I tend to look away too, it doesn't mean you're ugly, I guess a lot of girls are just uncomfortable with.
from experience like me orany other girls I've spoken to we are more likely to look away if we like the guy. I do this when I don't know them well enough and I'm pretty shy too
good question and interesting answers. like boneless skeleton summed up, they pretty much ALWAYS look away regardless of what is going through their head. the question would be, what would the female prefer for the male to do? look away as well? or keep eye contact for a bit long and maybe smile?
sometimes I look away if I think the guy is cute and I'm shy...other times I will kind of look away if I don't want to be talked to
Yes its a shy thing. I'm shy and do it with both men and women. Id like to look up at everyone and just give them a big smile, but alas, I cant.
i always do it, no matter if I fancy the guy, just feel its a bit awkward. in fact I look away ESPECIALLY if I like the guy (very odd I know).
great question asked.. I wonder the exact same thing to almost everyday I walk around my college campus. I asked one of my friends the same question and they said it could either be they find you attractive or find you intimidating
Personally I just feel weird making eye contact like that it feels stalker like to me I don't know why I guess I don't want the guy to know I was looking at him.
Depends, she could just be very nervous and don't want you to be freaked out by her looking at you :3 Or, she probably is nervous/scared of rejection.
i do the same thing with my crush!
i'll look at him from a distance but as we get closer
i pretend to be looking past him
she has feelings for you...but she doesn't want you to know
how approachable do you make yourself?Some girls are shy and a bit nervous to look directly at a guy, because there self confident or they don't know what to do so all they can think about is to look away. They also might think your to cute to even think about looking at them so they look away.
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