Have you ever been told that you were handsome?

Question

My boyfriend just told me I'm the only one who's ever told him that he's handsome (except his mother) I thought that was weird so why not make a poll

redeyemindtricks · Accepted Answer

If someone **you're not already in a relationship with** calls you "pretty" (women) or "handsome" (men)... then, that's a pretty good indicator that the person has NO SEXUAL INTEREST WHATSOEVER in you.

I mean... think about it.
"Pretty" and "handsome" are so **asexual** that they're actually ok to use for 7-year-olds!
Like, if you wanted to say something to a mother about her 7-year-old son or daughter's super cute face... you'd DEFINITELY use the word "handsome" (son) or "pretty" (daughter).
Because... those are the words that you use SPECIFICALLY to express a COMPLETELY NON-SEXUAL compliment.

Yep.
That's what those words are for.

Someone who's actually *interested* has a whole array of other words they could potentially use. Hot... fine... good-looking... sexy... bangin'... etc. Basically, they'll use ANY word EXCEPT "handsome"/"pretty".

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If you're **already in a relationship**... then it's a little different.

In relationships, people use all sorts of cutesy pet names for each other -- sweetie, snugglebuns, etc -- that they wouldn't use outside of a relationship (except with heavy sarcasm).

Similarly... if you're actually in a rl with someone, THEN it's less weird for them to call you "handsome"/"pretty". This is kinda like "I want to pinch yr cheeks, you're just so cuuuuuuute".

It's still a very asexual compliment. (I'd actually be deeply hurt if my husband ever called me "pretty" without irony. I need to be HOT for him! I need to be irresistible, sexy, bangin', etc.) But... that's just the way some partners talk to each other -- over-the-top cutesy, like, the same way you'd talk about a 7-year-old.

Autumn-Bunny · Accepted Answer

My brother used to call me handsome when I was little and dressed like a tomboy Lmao used to piss me off.

archiz · Accepted Answer

if the guy is good looking then he s good looking I tell him

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I've only ever been told that by family members as well. No-one ever tells a guy that he's good looking unless he or she has a sexual interest in that guy. That's just the way it is, far more so than the opposite's true for girls. Girls compliment each other's appearances, and get complimented on their appearance by everyone. Guys, on the other hand, deride each other's appearances, and constantly get their appearances trashed by pretty much everyone who comments on it.

FýrdracaDócincel · Accepted Answer

I have been told that by a few girls other than my mother. Honestly, the effect it has depends on who I'm getting it from. For example, I didn't really care when this one girl told me because I know she tends to lie to make people feel better. But when this other girl told me, I felt good because she was actually attracted to me.

mikemx55 · Answer

Only by my mother... But cmon, that doesn't count at all... doesn't really mean anything, its like their job to love us unconditionally xD

BeerFarts · Answer

Yes, handsome is actually the compliment that I receive the most from people (not including family).

Bandit74 · Answer

By my mom has, but her eyesight blows and she is kinda biased so I don't really put much value in her complements on my appearance.

Anonymous · Answer

My mom never directly told me I'm handsome. Because then I would be a douche and arrogant. But I've been being called very beautiful often by strangers

zorro8888 · Answer

Yeah I've gotten that before... and not just my mom lol!

Anonymous · Answer

Yes Mom, dad, family, girlfriends, stangers, bosses, coworkers... but I think it might be a cultural thing, just being nice. I do consider myself handsome but nothing jaw dropping.

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

Yes I have. I just say "thank you" and go about my business. I've had self esteem issues in the past so I just think "I'm just me." Probably the reason why I don't pick up on flirting. *shrugs*

Anonymous · Answer

No, i wish girls would give us compliments more, they just expect us to give them compliments which sucks.

blutwolfe · Answer

yeah but its usually by weird ass girls normally girls say cute/hot

Saoirse_Nua · Answer

Back in the era of steam trains, a few people told me they thought I was handsome.

rgb008 · Answer

Never been called handsome lol

Winter_Storm_Guy · Answer

Yes, I've been told i was handsome but never got compliments often.

Yumix · Answer

yeah but mostly online where I can post only cherry-picked pics lol

LuisPenaNunez · Answer

Yes, by friends, family, strangers, girl friends, and even guy friends lol (yeah weird)

Cosytoasty · Answer

Only by drunk women lol

TuMeManques · Answer

Never been told I'm handsome. Thank goodness.

AhGojira · Answer

Yeah sure... All sorts of people...

Shawn58 · Answer

Yea what does your boyfriend look like

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe a few time but I really don't care.

Fingold · Answer

I'm told every so often.

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