Like have you ever struggled with your appearance do you currently struggle with appearance does your girl or boyfriend have to always look good like what's your thoughts on appearance how much does it matter?
Most Helpful Girl
I used to struggle a lot, and have had weight issues for most of my life. I saw a psychologist a few years ago that was really helpful though and now the only standards I adhere to are my own. I'm happy with my body and appearance, there are definitely some things I'd like to change and I am slowly working on those2
Most Helpful Guy
Oh it varies so much for me. But it's usually my "maximum ideal weight" that changes around.
But I tell ya, I've had a few girls whose personality absolutely blew me away. They weren't exactly in the range I would have thought of before, which is why I try to reevaluate my standards all the time. I just totally fell for them.
Also, I try not to expect much more than I expect of myself. Like, I've gained probably 20lb over the last several years so I'm aware I would be a total hypocrite if I only accepted, like, super fit girls. I certainly wouldn't turn them down, but I'm not going to hold them to that standard.1