Girls always date a guy and complain "oh I wish he'd be more open... I wish he seemed like he cared." and then another guy comes along, obviously likes her, and is actually willing to open up and be vulnerable with her and she freaks?
for girls so badly wanting to feel loved, they sure have their way of running the opposite direction when it actually shows itself to them (or think of the worst-case scenario)...
I'm saying if she ain't in a relationship. I'm not being nasty either lol, just opening up about how I feel. I'm not a guy to hide things. I'm upfront and honest and that's all I know how to be. I don't play retarded games. love isn't fun and games to me
You might not feel this is your "style." I understand. You're upfront and honest: STAY that way. But try to think outside the box and be open minded here: flirting IS being upfront and honest about your intentions. You're actually revealing a lot, just in a more effective way. It's not playing HARMFUL or "retarded" games with a girl's emotions, it's a fun game and one that most girls will respond to.
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The thing is if your opening up to her and she is already in a relationship, even if she complains about the guy not opening up, if she is a loyal girl she won't leave her man for another who is more open. I myself keep trying to get one guy to open up to me. I do get those moments where he opens up to me and I love him more for it. You have to make sure the girl likes you before you start opening up to her and that she isn't actually in a relationship before you do so because she will run the other way.
There was this one guy who liked me a couple of years ago and I knew it but I wasn't into him. When he told me he thought I was good looking I would just dismiss him. I thought we had a great time as friends. But he wasn't my type of guy. So I guess the answer to your question is that 1st make sure she isn't in a relationship 2nd figure out if she does like you and then if you think she does open up but slowly don't come on to strong or she will run the other way
Is this a question or you venting? Because there is a such thing as coming on too strong.
Have you ever seen the T.V. show How I Met Your Mother? There is an episode where the main character on that show tells a girl he loves her after the first date. Girls want to hear it but they don't want to be creeped out by a guy with more emotions then a soap opera.
Give it time and make the girl work for it a little. She has to want it before you give it to her.
Try being a little bit of both. Share a little bit of yourself at a time, then hold back some and be more "fun and flirty." If you find yourself doing too much of either, try to practice improving at the one you're not as good at. The right girl will appreciate the fact that you're able to strike that balance and will be attracted to you for that. Best of luck.