So you can see my pro-pic. That's how I look. There's also a pic of my body type: petite and slender. Then, I'm pre-med...and super rich.
I'm just really not that outgoing and I like to present my self with class, what some mistaken as arrogance. Sometimes I avoid guys because I know they are interested as more, and I don't want it. Especially not college boys who even if serious about a girl, don't really know what they want or are ready. And besides, the ones interested in me in a serious way are usually not the ones I'm into. Even the ones I'm into (overachieving party types), I know they are at their party stage and respect that because I rather not have a guy resent anything later and harbor regrets. I like these guys because I think it is important to search around and know everything (for a guy) so they can say, yep I chose right and approach me when they really have something to offer (into the idea of serious relationship where they can logically have time --as school takes a lot of time, security--a guy should have some career). I hold women in the same standard but rather than know every guy, they should be picky. Have a some men who fit their basic criteria go on coffee dates and get to know the guy, and if you like his personality, let him get ot know you slowly.
Still, I'd like to know the vibes, both girls and guys get of me.
What kind of vibes do you get from me?
It's just, my mom says I come of as mean, arrogant, and condescending because I don't smile a lot, am always dressed up and never initiate conversation. Isn't it more important not to judge people? At the end, I treat a doctor the same way I treat the pool man...and I think that is true realization of equality. I just hate when people think they can judge you (I have gone from the poor ugly duckling to a reasonably okay looking and rich person and see how people change around you).
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damn honestly I was turn-off when you said super-rich
you shouldnt say that cause it makes you sound conceited and snobby
and then I read the rest of your text and I was right. You do sound conceited.
and "I think it is important to search around and know everything (for a guy) so they can say, yep I chose right and approach me when they really have something to offer (into the idea of serious relationship where they can logically have time --as school takes a lot of time, security--a guy should have some career)"
to me ^that^ is just totally wrong because by knowing everything about a guy is judging him and going through his Facebook is totally the wrong thing to do, ignorance is bliss!
and what you're looking for in a dude is not going to come now because your 18-24 and at that age almost everyone wants to party and party.
I know this because I want a girl like that. A girl who has a head on her shoulders and knows where she is going in life and has a career. Most girls who have that are 3-4 years older than me so unless you know some older people you will have to wait (and they prob won't be as good looking as you would want them to be either)
(what you said is one of the reason I don't have a Facebook cause its stupid that a girl would judge you through a profile page that OTHER people post up on. Its not a reflection of me
its a reflection of what other people see in me)
"It's just, my mom says I come of as mean, arrogant, and condescending because I don't smile a lot, am always dressed up and never initiate conversation"
Just not smiling and not talking can make you seem like a mean person and when you're dressed up it makes you seem worse. So just try smiling and see how that changes how people view you. And don't be afraid to go up to people and talk. Just don't flaunt anything you have!
So I would say re-read what you wrote, smile more, and talk to people (but don't flaunt)
I understand you were a ugly duckling and now a okay person but strangers don't know that so you must prove it to them that you are not.
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