why do many people look down upon settling for someone even though you are not totally attracted to them? after all we are all human beings and we have do have imperfections, is it really wise to go on hunting for "the perfect one"? there is surely something or the other in everyone that needs to be improved or does not meet the mark, be it looks, body, personality, energy, etc, and we also never know what others think they have to "settle for" when it comes to us
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To me "settling" means you don't think you can do any better than your current significant other so you accept them into your life, despite that person not living up to your expectations of what you want in a partner.
In my opinion settling is the worst thing you can do for your long-term happiness when it comes to relationships. Plus it says a lot about your self esteem and inner worth. Nobody is perfect, but settling for someone less than your ideal is a grave mistake as you'll never be happy with that person as you could have been if you stuck it out and found Mr or Mrs Right.
That leads me to my next point: most relationships happen by accident. When was the last time you proactively went out and got the person you wanted? Most people end up in relationships with those they meet through work, school, or friends and rarely go out and find Mr/Mrs Right. That's a damn shame in my book.
One thing you need to watch out for is backwards rationalizing the person you're with is a better match for you than they really are because you're already in a relationship with them. Be true to yourself and be honest. It will pay dividends in the future when you're not regretting the marriage and 10 years you've spent with someone that doesn't make you happy or fulfill your needs.