Hello there I am a 22 year old female and have always been small my whole life, but recently I had jaw surgery and lost a ton of weight. After I was able to eat solid foods my body started to pack it on in weird places because it thinks that I am starving my self. My boyfriend says I am beautiful but I was small when he met me and fell in love with me and he said I was beautiful then. I gained about 50 pounds since we met 4 years ago. He always wants to go to the beach but there are so many gorgeous girls there showing off their goods, and I am jealous but I don't let it show but I don't want him to think I am a bummer either. What should I do?And I have tried talking to him but he thinks I'm being ridiculous
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Ask yourself, who is telling you that you don't measure up? You are. So, no matter what your boyfriend says, you are the one comparing yourself to these other girls.
It sounds like you are overweight. I am assuming you were not skeletal when he met you and, barring that you have grown in height quite a bit which at your age is a possibility, having added 50 lbs since you two met is a lot of weight. It may be time for you to re-examine how to get back into shape. It is good for your health as it doesn't take much of a weight gain to start exposing you to all sorts of health problems in the long run. I am in my 40's and I see what happens to people that started off with bad eating habits in their 20's. It's not pretty. They are constantly at doctor's appointments dealing with one serious health problem or another.
Beyond that, you need to decide what you feel is a good weight for you. Consider that a lot of the girls at the beach are not the ones with amazing bodies and maybe you are only comparing yourself to the few that do. Taking charge of your health and weight can make you feel so good. I know on a day that I am working out I feel much better about myself even when obviously one day of working out or eating better didn't make any change to me that day. Try it!0