I know it is, just don't know exactly why. Wouldn't you want someone who is going to be devoted to you and stuff?
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I understand your point but there's a couple of reasons why being desperate is unattractive.
Firstly being desperate is worse than being easy. It means that no effort has to be put in, in order to get you. People are attracted to value, and being desperate really lowers a persons value. If you have to work to attain something then it has more value.
Secondly, on a subconscious level it make one think that you are not very highly desired by others. A person who is desired by lots of others has a lot of choice and therefore has the option to pick and choose the one best suited to them. Someone with this option is more attractive and would be harder to get as there would be more competition. A desperate person is less attractive because there's no competition to get the person therefore when you do get them, the reward and satisfaction will feel minimal at best.
Desperation also lets a person know that your world and your life isn't as enjoyable as theirs, so you need to cling to them and be a part of their world. If your world and life is not as good as theirs, then why would they want someone who isn't bringing anything to the table.
Just because a person is desperate, it does not automatically mean that they will be devoted. In fact a desperate person by definition lacks grounding, self esteem and rationality and is therefore more likely to run off if in their head they think something better has come along. Also it is not that difficult for a person of high value to find someone is devoted and who isn't desperate.
These are just some of reasons why desperation is unattractive. If you are still having a hard time understanding then think of a person who you are not really attracted to doing all sorts of desperate things to try to get you and it may help you see better.
hope this helped