I've heard many opinions from people in my life on either side of this hypothetical question, so I figured I would poll the site users here to see what they believe. Do you feel it's more beneficial to find relationships when you're not looking for them (fate, or seeing it as "meant to be"), or actively going out and making opportunities for dating happen?
I think fate is great and all, but I'm a little more of a take-charge kind of guy, and I think that anything I can do to turn the odds in my favor is something I'll consider and/or do. Therefore, I believe in pursuing what I'm looking for, rather than just leaving it up to chance. What are your opinions?
Most Helpful Girl
I always say that I would rather stumble across a guy, but I mean that I would rather meet a guy and click with him, and have that lead to a relationship, not that I want to stand there waiting for someone to come along. You can't expect to find a relationship if no one knows you're interested in having one; you have to put in some effort. On the other hand, you can search too hard. One of my friends always ends up with the wrong guys because she gets so focused on finding the right one that she misses better opportunities. All things in moderation.1