There's this girl next door (no pun intended lol) that I like / have interest in.
Am pretty sure she's single now because I used to see her with this same guy for a few months. Not sure what kind of relationship it was but am pretty sure it was a Boyfriend / Girlfriend one. Now all I see is her hanging around & going out with family or friends, whether it's a girl or guy.
Now am 99% sure we like one another but there's always doubts in my head. We never offically met nor talk to one another. Am the shy type when it comes to meeting new people & of course even more shy if it's a girl I like.
It's been 2 and a half months now (maybe abit longer, losing track lol) that her & I have maintained eye contact somewhat. All this is happening when am looking from my front window or when were both in the backyard.
The eye contact we give to each other is either quick glaces or at times abit longer then usual. The quick glaces would come from the backyard when were both outside. The abit longer the usual one's would come from when I look from my front window when she's coming home & walking to her front door. When she goes out she also gives quick glaces when she notices am looking.
I would look at her (not completely staring so it won't feel kinda creepy) & she would notice this & we "lock" eyes. It's not like her eyes or her facial expression are saying "why are you looking at me" ? or "am not interested" or anything like that, it's something I can't really explain.
BTW, this happens either when it's still daytime or at night. Now I know we can't "lock" eyes at night but I do notice her turning her head (when she walks to her front door) to look at me because she notices am looking. Just to clarify, all this does not happen everyday & she does not look directly at me all the time but I know that she knows am looking at her anyway.
This is what's been going on & continuing. BTW, I believe we are both in the same age bracket, in our early 20's.
I would like a woman's opinion on this or other guys that have experienced this as well. Would a woman make & at least maintain some form of eye contact & not be interested, basically wasting her time / leading the other person on ?
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I'm in the same situation with my "crush". We live close to each other and see each other almost everyday. The only difference is that I've actually spoken to him a few times and he'll get nervous and brag a lot. Other than that, we have had tons of eye contact, sometimes lingering eye contact. To top it off, he's not shy at all and has no problem holding the stare for a good 5-8 seconds, which would be considered creepy if I wasn't so into him. I'm pretty sure that we both feel the same way and I wish he would just do something! In your situation, I think you should go with your gut. If she is returning the glances and looking at your window to see if you're there, then you're getting a positive response. So, you need to do something. At first try adding a smile with a quick raise of the eyebrows. My guy does this to me and I think it's so sweet. If she smiles back, you have the green light. Go talk to her! Start a conversation about ANYTHING to break the ice. Also, just letting you know that the staring game gets frustrating pretty fast if you're not going to make a move. She may lose interest if she thinks you're just getting a thrill from looking at her and you're not going to do anything else. I know that I'm frustrated and starting to get p*ssed too!0