OK so there's this girl that works at this bar part time that I think is drop dead gorgeous. she has incredible eyes which first stood out to me, she's got an awesome body, pretty face...anyways I've talked to her a few times...last time I asked her if she'd let me take her out sometime, she said maybe, so I asked for her number and she said well why don't you give me yours...
is this a bad thing? I mean I'm not gonna sweat it and wait on her to contact me and be crazy obsessive but I'd love to get to know her more, I know I'll probably see her again at the bar, but I mean do girls contact you if they get your number? is it bad that she didn't give me her number and took mine? I've really only gotten numbers from girls, I've never really given mine out - I know I seem like a rookie at this thing, but I'm just not sure what to think since I've never just given mine out, only exchanged really...girls what does that mean?
what could be a way to get her to come out with me without seeming desperate or obsessive...i just think she's really beautiful and id love to take her out somewhere fun
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When a girl suggests getting a guys number instead of giving him her number it can typically mean a few things. In your case, here are the ones that came to my mind (in no real order):
1. She's already seeing someone
2. She's not interested but doesn't want to offend you
3. She wants things to be on her terms (maybe because she doesn't know you well enough, likes the control, really values her privacy etc)
4. She doesn't like giving out her number at work (I hate giving my number out when I'm at work, especially if it's a retail or hospitality job, but I have taken guys numbers AND called them when I was interested)
Whatever the reason, the ball's in her court now. Be happy that you asked her (a lot of my guy friends still can't even do that well).
As for trying to get her to go out with you without seeming desperate or obsessive, talk to her more, ask her considerate questions (how've you been, what's been happening, how is work going, what do you do when you're not working etc). People will also be more likely to open up if you share a bit of information about yourself, and it makes it less like an interrogation that way. BUT I wouldn't ask her why she hasn't called, or even mention it to her. Make it seem like you are genuinely interested in *her*, not going out with her (if that makes sense).
Also, don't ignore your friends every time you go in there. Talk to her, be paying attention to her when you two are chatting, but go back to your friends after a while.
Hope that helps! :)4