So one of my biggest issues with being confident to go out and find girls is I don't want to go out alone. My friends rarely hang out with me so they're not an option. Anyway if a guy is by himself does he look like a loser?
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If you are obviously uncomfortable out by yourself, then yes it looks bad.
The trick is to behave like it was your choice to go out by yourself - not like you did it because it was your only choice. You can't pull of confidence with a patina of self consciousness on you.
I have a few girlfriends who refuse to go out by themselves - even if it's just meeting me at a place. They act as if everyone is "watching" them and wondering why they are so pathetic to be out on their own. I try to tell them if they feel that way - that is what they will project.
I've gone out on my own many times for years. I hated the idea of sitting home alone, so I went out and did things by myself. Gone to movies, out to eat, clubs to dance. I'm sure there were a few people who wondered why I was hanging out by myself - but I always thought it was because THEY couldn't fathom having a good time on their own. But I usually had a great time.
When I see guys out on their own, I don't think anything negative about them unless they are chatting every girl that crosses their path. That's when I think they are desperate and steer clear.
Go out and enjoy your own company. Make eye contact and smile. It doesn't make you a loser if your willing to go out and try new things on your own.