Hey guys! Throwing this question out there... how do you be more secure about your looks? I don't consider myself ugly per say, but I never seem to be the girl guys want. I get called "cute" but never hot or sexy. I'd kill to look like other girls, especially my hot friends, or the girls guys find attractive.
It really grates on me, so I'm looking for ways to deal with how I look. Any suggestions are welcome. Thanks!
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Being called cute isn't such a bad thing. It's not so much a distinct classification as it is a different 'shade' or 'hue' of female beauty. The terms 'hot', 'cute' and 'sexy' aren't mutually exclusive: sexy girls are cute and cute girls are sexy. I would say the key difference is the emotional responses such girls evoke.
A sexy or hot girl is a girl whose looks exude sexuality and make me feel excited and turned on. A cute girl is a girl who's looks tug on the heart strings and make me feel a deep sense of longing and warmth inside. In my experience the emotional impact of a hot girl is more initially intense and attention grabbing while the emotions I feel in the presence of a cute girl are more subtle but they feel deeper in some way. I notice a sexy girl almost immediately but it takes time for me to 'warm up' to a cute girl. There were a couple of girls in my classes in high school that did that to me. I probably passed over them initially but they grew on me until I became fixated upon them.
They're different flavors, different sides of the same coin. But no matter the variation, feminine beauty is feminine beauty and cute girls have it too. I guess you could compare it to looking at the same scene through a different lens. If I can focus I can see them from a different angle. If I concentrate on a girl I can see a cute, young girl and I can bask in the waves of her feminine energy or I can see the sexy, horny girl and I want to run my hands over every inch of her body. But without trying, I tend to attend to one or the other depending on her appearance, I guess.
I like your profile picture and I can see why guys call you cute and let me assure it's no insult. I've always been a "face guy". I'm a sucker for a pretty face and I know when I see one and you have one. I like the shape of your eyes and that cute smirk on your face. Cuteness isn't just in your looks, it's in your expression. Everything from the peace sign you're making to your facial expression to the way your wearing your hair says cute to me. But if you were to let your hair down and strike a more suggestive pose...
Take a look in the mirror and see if you can see what I'm talking about. I used to think I was totally ugly too but if I look in the mirror and clear all my preconceptions I have of myself out of my head for a bit, I see some characteristics that are handsome. I suggest you try that, take 5 minutes and look at yourself and try to see the positives. Also, everybody needs (or at least appreciates) external validation. When a girl on here says I'm hot or cute, it feels good. You're quite pretty and I imagine myself dating you (and enjoying it!).
So cheer up, girl! You're attractive!1