I love black people, I really do. I grew up all around them. Its just that I don't sync with them very well. As my primary example, I absolutely love rock music. All I want to do is look the way I feel inside, so I want to straighten my hair so it looks more like the people who I want to be like. But up until now my parents haven't let me because they are racists. When I bring up straightening my hair they go crazy and start talking about what a horrible person Micheal Jackson is.
But I'm going to college now, so I can straighten my hair if I want to. I just don't know if its the best of ideas. Will it make me seem like a sellout? Will it make other people interested in the stuff I'm interested in like me more? I've been alienated because of my interests all my life, and all I really want is for people to like me.
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I somewhat understand were you're coming from. As you probably have experienced it yourself, the "black environment" is not conducive to learning and therefore my love of engineering was sometimes seen as trying too hard, actng white, etc...
However your problem seems to stem from you are trying to alter your look to gain acceptance. quote "straighten my hair so it looks more like the people who I want to be like" And THAT is very transparent and no one will take you seriously.
Its fine to wear what you want because you appreciate the style and you're wearing it to EXPRESS your personalty and not to gain accepance.
But if you do so to gain acceptance, people are somewhat justified to call you names eg cocconut, bounty, etc...because at the essence/core of it, you are black but you wish you were white, hence you're trying too hard to fit in by changing anything associated with your race..
Anyway basically wear whatever you want but only as a way of expressing your style NOT of gaining acceptance.
Look at what Kanye West wears, his style is not typical hip hop but he pulls it off really well..
I.e fashion trends come and go, but only wear trendy things you actually like, than to wear them because their are trendy..
This goes to straightening your hair, do so if you like it NOT because you want to look like the others in your peer group.
Also with reference to your "not that dark" please bear in mind you're black, you will never look like the majorty of rock music fans... That said it does not and should not limit you from dressing the way you want, after all, most rock clothes actually suit black people really well..
Anywho interesting quote, Key To Failure Is Trying To Please Everyone2