Okay so I am a very good dresser. Like clothes and shoes are one of the things I pride myself on. I keep it simple but nice at all times. My girlfriend on the other hand used to live in a foster home and she wears almost the same thing everyday. Like she always wears the same hoodie and she usually wears one of three pairs of pants and some shoes. Also all her clothes look like there from 2005. I know she isn't rich but I also know her mom and step family dress really nice so I guess maybe they just don't buy her clothes. But when I go crowded places with her I never want to hold her hand or anything because I really am embarrassed. I'm not rich at all I'm actually kind of poor but I work for my dad and get like 50 dollars a week should I give it to her or would she get mad? What do I do about this?
Well thanks for all the answers. And to the anonymous answerer I do care about her feelings I just never thought about it the way you put it. She doesn't really like talking about that stuff with me though.
Your girlfriend is poor, have you ever thought maybe she can't afford to dress up to your standards? Instead of being embarrassed by her for not being on your swag level you should have compassion for her. Not trying to come down on you, but seriously try to look at it from her point of view. Just as image is important to you, I'm sure you realize that it's important to many girls as well. Maybe she doesn't feel as good because all she has to wear is the same hoodie and because of her foster home background...especially when her boyfriend is nicely dressed? If she could dress nicely I'm sure she would. Who would want to only have a few clothes to wear? If she is from a foster home and her step family and mom dresses nicely, that tells me maybe there are other issues going on in her home life. Maybe they treat her like the redheaded stepchild and don't buy her clothes, if that is the case that most likely hurts her too. I'm sure she can tell that you are embarrassed by her and that wouldn't feel too good either. If it is that important to you, maybe you should set aside some of your money so you can take her shopping. I have to say, I find it sad that the only thing you are worried about is how your girlfriend makes you look when you're with her, as opposed to actually caring about her feelings. It's like she is basically just an accessory to you, and you could care less about the deeper issues as long as she looks good on your arm. If you are gonna be that shallow and not truly care about her - why are you with her? Just for sex or something?
The holding hand part is pretty shallow and a bit ridiculous. you should love her for who she is not what she dresses like.
I understand that you don't like the way she dresses, then buy her few stuff as a gift and next time she goes out shopping tell her that you wanna go with her and tell her what's nice when she asks for your opinion. And perhaps you could tell her that you would like to see her in a cute dress or that she would look cute and awesome if she wear bla bla.
Yeah, you could buy her some clothes but I feel as if there's something else wrong on a different level. Your embarrassment in her says more about you than her and your insecurities about the relationship. You need to work that out.
I would say if your desperate for her to change her style, wait til her birthday or anniversary and take her shopping as a gift. Don't straight out make it seem like charity, because she will probably refuse and feel bad about herself. But also if you like her, you shouldn't worry bout how she dresses, and definately shouldn't be ashamed of her.
lol I think any girl would love if their boyfriend bought them clothes so I would just buy her something new like she obviously needs to change her clothes and wash them I don't know why everyone here doesn't think of that...its just part of being a girl and taking care of yourself...or you could always talk to her about it..
If you're embarrassed by her, you shouldn't be with her.
Get over it and like your girlfriend for being your girlfriend not an accessory...there might be reasons why she dresses like that (financial or emotional ones) but if she doesn't mind (you can ask her about that though), you really shouldn't.
A. If you are embarrassed by how she dresses and because of that am ashamed to be seen with her then you probably should stop being with her. However, dude I gotta tell you guy-to-guy that you're just being real shallow. Clothes do not make a person who she is.
B. If you have some $$, why not just take her shopping and buy her some clothes lol? That way, you can be a nice boyfriend and she can get some nicer and newer clothes
C. Maybe she's being frugal. That's actually a very good quality in the long term trust me. Or she might be like me, I don't like to buy clothes or wear too much new stuff... my clothes usually stay with me for at least 2 years.
Finally, I just gotta repeat... You seriously gotta think whether you really like her for who she is. Because it just seems so immature that you would be ashamed to hold her hands just because she's not wearing the latest name brands.
Either accept her as she is or find someone else who doesn't embarrass you...
Kenny Powers hates how his girlfriend dresses too link