Okay so I am a very good dresser. Like clothes and shoes are one of the things I pride myself on. I keep it simple but nice at all times. My girlfriend on the other hand used to live in a foster home and she wears almost the same thing everyday. Like she always wears the same hoodie and she usually wears one of three pairs of pants and some shoes. Also all her clothes look like there from 2005. I know she isn't rich but I also know her mom and step family dress really nice so I guess maybe they just don't buy her clothes. But when I go crowded places with her I never want to hold her hand or anything because I really am embarrassed. I'm not rich at all I'm actually kind of poor but I work for my dad and get like 50 dollars a week should I give it to her or would she get mad? What do I do about this?
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Your girlfriend is poor, have you ever thought maybe she can't afford to dress up to your standards? Instead of being embarrassed by her for not being on your swag level you should have compassion for her. Not trying to come down on you, but seriously try to look at it from her point of view. Just as image is important to you, I'm sure you realize that it's important to many girls as well. Maybe she doesn't feel as good because all she has to wear is the same hoodie and because of her foster home background...especially when her boyfriend is nicely dressed? If she could dress nicely I'm sure she would. Who would want to only have a few clothes to wear? If she is from a foster home and her step family and mom dresses nicely, that tells me maybe there are other issues going on in her home life. Maybe they treat her like the redheaded stepchild and don't buy her clothes, if that is the case that most likely hurts her too. I'm sure she can tell that you are embarrassed by her and that wouldn't feel too good either. If it is that important to you, maybe you should set aside some of your money so you can take her shopping. I have to say, I find it sad that the only thing you are worried about is how your girlfriend makes you look when you're with her, as opposed to actually caring about her feelings. It's like she is basically just an accessory to you, and you could care less about the deeper issues as long as she looks good on your arm. If you are gonna be that shallow and not truly care about her - why are you with her? Just for sex or something?3