I was 18, had blue hair, and a face full of piercings. From the first day I saw my new "preppy" co-worker, I wanted a chance to show him what I was all about. We flirted constantly, so when I mustered up enough courage to ask him out via a mutual friend (Yes, at the time that in itself took courage), I was shocked for him to say No. The friend reported back with "He said it's just not 'his style.'
Fast forward 5 years. College happened, life happened, and I changed physically. I went from having blue spikes to having blond curls. I went from having a face full of metal to... not. I remained the same person I'd always been though (and I still love the same music, just can't maintain the appearance in a conservative career choice).
Sexy co-worker and I stayed in touch over the years, and fairly recently he expressed interested in dating me. I brought up the past event of him turning me down for a date and he said (exact words) "I don't remember ever saying you 'weren't my style.' I always knew you were a rockin' chick and pretty, but I just don't know if my priss-ass could've handled dating someone like that."
OK, so he knew I was the same person, but couldn't get past a hair color? Maybe I'm more open-minded than most, but this hasn't been sitting right with me. Part of me feels like if he can't accept me at "my worst" (physically, at least in his eyes) then he doesn't deserve me at "my best."
So, what's the deal, dudes and ladies? --- is it simply his own taste in women that I shouldn't judge him for? Or should I ditch him for being shallow?
Thanks in advance!
Most Helpful Girl
Nope don't give him a chance. You have the same personality like you said the only thing that changed was your looks and time. Now he wants to be in the picture? No way.0