I have a painful infection of the eye lid, that has caused my whole eye to swell. Yesterday it was so bad it was black, blue and purple and was swelled totally shut.
It looks just like I got hit in the eye by someone and feels like it too.
Unfortunately, this infection of the eye lid is something I get once or twice a year and the doc says there is nothing I can do to prevent it. Just treat it right away or the infection could go into the eye ball & I would go blind.
My boyfriend has never seen me before when I had this happen. I knew him then,
but he must have missed seeing me at those times.
Yesterday, I saw him on my way to work & I admit - it looked bad. All he said was
" That looks horrible! Are they going to let you work like that?". I told him yes as long as I had my eye patch it would be fine.
After work I asked if he wanted to meet for a few minutes, but he said he had a
meeting to go to. I though the meeting was usually later, but didn't think too much of it.
Then I asked to meet him again tonight as he will be leaving for a work trip for almost a week & I would like to see him
before he goes. He seemed reluctant, but said yes. Then when I got there he was very distant & wouldn't really look at me.
Finally, he said it was hard to look at me with that patch. My eye is a lot better
today and less swollen so I said I could take it off. As I did he turned away & said "No! Put it back on!" . So I did.
My co-works have all seen my eye and were very sympathetic, but didn't seemed really bothered by it. They all
made pirate jokes and so did I. I even brought a little stuffed parrot to work this morning because so many had
asked " Where's your parrot captain?".
that didn't bother me. My boyfriend not being able to look at me did.
I know it's not pretty, but no one else
had that much of a problem with it.
I didn't say anything to him as he is the type to feel very guilty about anything &
everything and I don't want to make him feel bad.
Would you have a problem looking at
your mate if they had a black eye?
The worst part is - this eye thing will happen off and on for the rest of my life. I can't stop it. And I can't hide from my boyfriend each time it happens.
Jokes don't bother me, joke right back. And if anyone else had a problem looking at me I would say it was their problem not mine. But this is the man I love and who loves me. We are talking about spending our lives together. It's supposed to be "For better or for worse" right?
I'm kind of hurt right now.
How would you feel about all this?
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No, I wouldn't have problem with it at all. I would be concerned, and ask lots of questions at first, but I wouldn't have a problem with it once I was fairly certain you were OK. If friends were always assuming that I had been the cause of the black eye, then it might become a slightly bigger issue; still not enough to break up with you.
Various friends have all kinds of things... Vitaligo. Alopecia, Turrets, Autism (Asberger's), Juvenile Huntington's Disease. Spina Bifida, As babies, some had "deformed craniums." Some of my friends are even :shudder: Michigan State fans. I have all kinds of friends with all kinds of so called "handicaps." An occasional "messed up" eye is not going to make me run if I loved the woman who had it. Now if it was contagious, like Pink Eye, then I might not always be so quick to snuggle up, but other than that, not an issue.
Patches and eye issues don't really freak me out much because I'm used to it. Someone not used to it might have a bigger problem with it.0