I've been one of those nice guys that usually ends up as the *friend* rather than the boyfriend.
I don't get it. I'm very respectful of women. I open doors for them, tell them if I like their new hair style or clothes (yes I notice), do things around their house that they can't do themselves, remove bugs from their vicinity when requested, and am more than willing to pick up the tab on any date. I don't have a lot of baggage, no kids, no ex's I'm obsessed with or that are obsessed with me. I'm not the kind of guy that talks about how hot other women are while with a potential girlfriend or any of that disrespectful crap that some men do.
I'm also confident in my looks (the older I get especially). I'm 6 feet tall and about 180 pounds which means I maybe like 5 pounds overweight which these days is thin LOL. I'm in good shape and have great muscle definition in my arms. I'm confident that my face is average maybe even above average.
So my question is why are women swarming around my ex roommate who is kind of a jerk towards women (treats them as a sex object) and already has a kid? Why is this one guy I know who is covered with tattoos, looks like he just got out of prison, and who has three kids with two women, getting calls from women that want him daily?
It seems I would have better luck if I had a kid and began pressuring women for sex the first time I met them but that just isn't how I was raised and it's just not me.
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im a good girl as well, I agree with anonymous girl, I fell really hard for a bad boy because he was so confident and didn't care what people said about him, he seemed like a group leader, always with a crowd of friends, and he gave me special attention, he said I was cute and pretty, and smart, and would stare deep into my eyes in a nonsexual way, there was just a lot of passion within him, and so much adventure and excitement, and I wanted to be part of his world. The sad part is, I really did think he would make me part of his world, but it was only temporary and for a limited time. I still think of him and miss him to this day and it hurts really bad. He wasn't the type of player to get into my pants, he never touched me like that or any girl really, he was just all talk lol, but he definitely seemed against love and wasn't the committed type of guy at all. He was a big flirt and I hate him.
The good news is though I NOW want to be with a nice guy and don't ever want to look back or go near a bad boy ever again. I think its part of growing up and its all about the experience.2