I'm not an attractive girl by media's standards, I have a pretty average face nothing special, although not spectacular. My body is average too, I have small boobs, slimish and big thighs with cellulite =/
I'm not what society considers attractive. And I kind of have a problem with this. I don't feel attractive enough for a relationship. I feel very self conscious.
I want to stay away from relationships. I had a boyfriend once who commented on hot girls and such, I know this is normal for guys, but it hurt me to no end and I felt really self conscious. I obsessed with my looks and what they had that I didn't, namely perfect legs and perfect boobs.
I don't want to go through that again. I know I am smart enough, and kind enough for sex and a relationship. But the looks thing still upsets me.
I don't like feeling inferior to these perfect women, so I stay off relationships and sex. But it's difficult, because I still want affection and/or sex from time to time.
How can I stop wanting love and sex? I know you will say "all guys do it, just accept it" or "just be confident it's all that matters". But I already WAS in a relationship and couldn't stand it. I mean he wasn't even a perv or anything, he was just a NORMAL guy and I couldn't take it and felt horribly hurt.
I feel that if I'm with any guy I'll be such a bad girlfriend 'cause of this that having a relationship is not worth it. So please help me stay off relationships 'cause I'm too ugly for one.
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1)You have to remember,an attractive person is an attractive person.So if you're in a relationship with a guy,you're going to notice other attractive males am I right?I mean,say David Beckham walks past you,or Tyson Beckford,you're going to notice.Whether you comment or not,I can't decide,but you'll notice.It doesn't mean you find your boyfriend any less attractive right?You still find him attractive but can appreciate other forms of beauty and attractiveness.Same for him.
2)Cellulite.Guys notice,but don't care.Same with stretch marks,it's there but not a deal breaker and doesn't make ANYONE any less attractive.Cross that out of your mind.You shouldn't worry about that at ALL,not at all.
3)Small boobs?Plenty of guys love small breasts,plus,think about it,are all guys boob guys?NOPE.Some guys are leg guys,other guys butt guys,some guys feet guys,other hips etc.Not every guy goes for breasts.Don't worry about that.
4)No one is too ugly.If you need a "pick me up" go to Wal-Mart.Girlllll,you will feel better after 10 minutes in that store.After seeing all of the married women haha,you will know you stand a chance.
Bottom line is:
No one is too ugly to be in a relationship.You can consider yourself ugly,but that doesn't mean other guys will.You shouldn't deprive yourself of sex and a relationship because of little insecurities.Everyone deserved sex,love and a relationship.I think you should spend some time improving your self esteem and gaining some confidence,then attempt another relationship.You don't have to live up to societies standards to be in a relationship.It would be heaven if all guys looked like David Beckham but does that mean women are turning men down left and right for not looking like him?Nope.For other reasons yes,but not that.
-Do 30-60 minutes of cardio a day;running,jogging,speed walking,jump roping,swimming,dancing etc.
-Do strength training 2-3x a week;calisthenics,resistance training,weight training.
-Cleanse,tone and moisturize your skin.
-Do a weekly pedicure and manicure.Or go get a pedicure/manicure done.
-Exfoliate your skin(body and face) 1-2x a week.Use a handheld scrubber such as the Clarisonic(expensive) or a back scrubber with bristles to scrub over your body and give yourself a dry brush.Or use an exfoliating scrub.
-Deep condition your hair once a week(alternate between a protein/cholesterol and moisturizing)
-Use make-up to ENHANCE your features,although many guys go for cake faces too.
-Get your eye brows shaped,the right shaping can change your face drastically.
-Wear clothing that accentuates your curves.
These can help you feel beautiful.3
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