I'm 21 year old virgin whose decided that she's ready to date :) Some people say that I should go up to a guy and say I think you're cute/hot, but I believe that is just immature & will make me appear "too" available/desperate. I believe guys like a tiny hint of a challenge.
I'd like to know what I should do to let a guy know I'm interested. I don't have issues by the way ha ha I'm beautiful, in great shape, and smart with a sense of humor.
For example, the other day at my part time job, this guy was with his mom, he was about 21/22, and came over for samples...We couldn't stop smiling at each other HE SEEMED so nice and cute, like a happy person (lets just say I was really into him because I can tell by the way he smiled that he laughed & smiled a lot); we kept looking at each other, and later I thought, "what if I just asked him for his number?"
BUT bam! It hit me, I would appear desperate! You know what I mean? Think about it, if a girl just randomly came up to you and said,"you're so hot, can I have your number?" You wouldn't feel challenged whatsoever & wouldn't find her as attractive because she's easy, she's available, you can go out with her any moment with one word.
THANKS Everyone :)
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Personally, I wouldn't give you my number as I don't know you and for all I know your some crazy stalker lady who'll call me in the middle of the night and do nothing but breathe loudly. Hell, that's probably something I'd say if you would ask me!
Guys do like a bit of a challenge(it doesn't have to be a lot but there needs to be a little), the guys who'll disagree with me and would give their numbers out are the ones who simply don't get or aren't used to female attention I'm guessing as otherwise they'd realize that if there isn't at least a little bit of cat & mouse, it gets boring really fast as there's no foundation and you don't have a single clue of who she is and what she likes.
I think the best part about a girl approaching me is what she makes me feel/think, if she'd come up to me with clear intent then I already know I have all the power which is just boring but if she makes me guess as to what she's actually after or WHY she's after it, I'd be a lot more receptive and would have a lot less issues giving out my number if you'll ask for it or I might even ask for yours if I was interested.0
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