so I have been together with my girlfriend for 10 months now, unfortunately 6 months in, I got deployed and now I'm in Iraq away from her. we spent everyday together, we were so happy nothing could destroy us! she has had a shady past, she used to get around a lot and party a lot. but she changed when we met, at least that's what she says. she would always tell me that I'm the best thing that has happened to her, she loves me so much, and that she can't wait to marry me. I'm the first boyfriend she has had that has taken her on dates, or bought flowers for her.she told me when we first started dating, that she was a nympho, but as time went on she said she changed, and now that I'm gone, she says that sex is never on her mind and that she just wants me home so we can be together again. but the problem is...she only talks to me when I message or call to her, most of the time she is short in her answers. a few days ago she was like "im getting really lonely without you here, I'm bored with my life. I know we talked about dating other people and decided that neither of us would do it. but I wanted to ask you, if its OK if I could date only if I was asked". this messed with me a bit, seeing how she said she wanted to settle down with just me. I told her no because we already promised not to. than I asked her what she was going to wear for Halloween. she said she was going to wear the same costume as last year, which is a cabaret dancer. that was a year ago, and her chest is a lot bigger than it was last year. so I knew that it would show a very large amount of her breasts. I told her I didn't feel comfortable with it, what does she do? gets p*ssed and says I'm being really dumb. the next day she saw a something I posted explaining our situation that happen the day before. she commented on it, saying I never said you were dumb, you make me sound so mean. she didn't remember that she got mad a said I was dumb. well a couple days later I asked her about the costume again, and she said she wants to look sexy on Halloween, I told her I would feel comfortable if she got a different costume. she sends me a link to another costume, that is better on the chest but its a short skirt. an even more slutty costume. I finally gave up and said she could wear it. she said "okay...i won't show my boobs and stuff"
My question is, has she changed? and what do I do? I am so depressed. she still says she loves me. but with the wanting to date other people, and look sexy on Halloween when I'm not there worries me. I trust her fully. I don't want to think she is wanting to mess around with other guys. but I don't know what to do or think anymore... what do I do?
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I don't really have any words for you right now. Phoenix52 is right, though. Tell her straight up what you expect and what you won't tolerate. You being in Iraq is hard on her, as well. And it's easy to lose sight of things whenever you're so far apart for so long, but she needs a reality check. She's creating stress on you that you DON'T need in an environment like you're in right now. Try not to let it interfere with what you're doing, and what your job is.1