So me and my boyfriend have been dating for about two months now, but we've been talking for at least 3 maybe 4. I know it seems soon, but I really like him and enjoy his company. He is a great guy and we don't have many issues. But, I seem to always be finding something wrong , I never feel fulfilled. He has a HUGE issue with showing emotion. He says he cares and yes his actions prove it, he does come by and see me often and we hang out a lot but I just I miss the part where he actually says nice and sweet things to me. I know most guys aren't big romantics but I feel like I need the fulfillment since I'm such an emotional person. And another thing is he has this this with wanting to change me for the better, and although the things he wants to change aren't always bad, it makes me feel unwanted at times. He's always talking about if he ever finds a girl he truly likes/wants (and am assumming he means if we break up, or at least I hope) then he would try and show off or prove to the girl he deserves her, but I feel like he doesn't do that for me he's too busy trying to change me.
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k there might be a solution for you to communicate to him - listen to the words he uses when he talks...does he use a lot of words that are visual or auditory perhaps? for example will he say things in a conversation like.."i hear what your saying, listen to me" or..."look here, I see what your saying" etc etc
By listening to what types of words he uses you can start to get a picture of what internal representational systems this guy uses to communicate. They are called predicates and you can use them yourself to communicate with him. Communicate with him in the way he communicates with the word...study him, listen to what he says...watch his body language...if you can then match the style that he communicates you will get into rapport with him and you will start to feel how he does inside...another excellent tip is for you to match his breathing pattern - you'll find yourself getting into instant rapport and may find your head flooded with thoughts that are not usually your own...they will be his thoughts ;)
a very handy tool...if you want look up building rapport with NLP its actually very simple to do and you will be able to communicate with him very easily once you practice a little.
there is no such thing as a non emotional person they do not exist...unless they literally have brain dmg in the area of the brain that generates emotions...even then we can communicate in other ways. Match his body posturing when your sitting down together and focus on your feelings, I can guarantee he will feel them if you do.
But really what this comes down to is if you feel that he is worth all of this trouble...I mean married coulpes normally go through this kind of trouble after years of being together...2 months doesn't seem very long and if he does not express himself to you emotionally...then what exactly is it about his personality that attracts you so much? just the actions? to me actions have no weight to them if one doesn't understand the intentions...intentions are the most powerful thing in the way we communicate0