There's this guy who never was my boyfriend but you know, there was something there for about 5 months or so. Anyway, out of the blue he stopped wanting to be with me, never said it but just started acting different and ignoring me. After a couple of weeks of that, he came back in my life as a friend which I accepted without talking about it (we never discussed ANY of this, it all just sort of happened). There's a new girl in his life, not his girlfriend, but I'm pretty sure something happened between them last night because I heard they were going out on their first date. Anyway, ever since I found out about them I can't stop hurting and randomly crying. It's driving me crazy. Knowing that they went out last night is killing me and I literally feel like throwing up. I know it's not normal to feel this way but I can't help it. I feel physically ill and this has never happened to me before. I haven't seen him in two days and I know that's good but I hate it. I keep hoping that by being friends he'll become interested in me again and forget that girl but I know it's stupid and I should get over it.
I just don't know how and what to do. Please don't say go out and meet someone new. It's not easy meeting guys here where I'm from, it's a VERY small town, most guys here are either married, old, have girlfriends or gay. There's not much to do either. No gym, no clubs.it's like a frickin ghost town! I hate feeling so damn sick and hurt 24/7.
I will take in all the advice you've all given me and use it.
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So, you live in a VERY small town AND everyone is either MARRIED, OLD, GAY OR TAKEN.
The town has NO GYM, CLUBS and is a FRICKIN GHOST TOWN!
So I presume that you know THAT GIRL. How could you not since its a VERY SMALL TOWN.
Are you feeling so damn sick and hurt BECAUSE;
A) You know the GIRL from before and didn't like her back then and still don't now and don't want her to be with him as you don't like her.
B) You don't want to be the only one in town to BE ALONE AND SINGLE so you'll take what ever is on offer, just to avoid being known as the spinster of the town.
C) Your really frustrated in living in a ghost town and this whole drama is the only thing that is giving you that excitement you want as nothing else happens in your frikin ghost town.
D) Your pissed at him because you gave him the 'holy grail' and thought that you would be rewarded with the 'girlfriend' status BUT it never happened. And 'THAT GIRL' has gotten further to the 'girlfriend' status in half the time that you did and has put in half the effort than you did. NOT FAIR!
SO WELL DONE TO RECOGNISE THAT YOU NEED TO GET OVER IT!
YOUR ALREADY ON YOUR WAY TO SUCCESS IN HALF THE TIME IT WOULD TAKE OTHERS.
Heres my suggestion;
This relationship is small fry. ITs not worth your time or effort. You need to think BIG!
THINK NEW YORK BIG! OR LAS VEGAS BIG! OR PARIS, LONDON, MEXICO, CANADA BIG!
I don't know where you live in the world BUT you should move out of the frikin ghost town and
GO LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST. HAVE ADVENTURES, FEEL THE EXCITEMENT AND THRILL OF GOING TO NEW PLACES AND MEETING NEW PEOPLE. YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE!
I lived in a little village of less than 100 people in New Zealand and left at 24 years old for Australia with only $300 dollars, no return air plane ticket, no job to go to and no place to live.
BUT I DID IT BECAUSE I BELIVED THAT I COULD MAKE IT AND I MADE IT HAPPEN.
I am now 34years old, living in Australia. I have met so many people from around the world and I am going to NEW YORK IN THE USA, CANADA, ENGLAND, GERMANY, ITALY, FRANCE, SWITZERLAND AND THAILAND IN 6 weeks!
I sometimes smack myself to see if I'm dreaming! I never thought that I could ever live the life that I have. ESPECIALLY since I grew up in a little tiny village of less than 100 people where everyone knew everyones business, there was high unemployment and high teenage pregnancy rates because there was nothing to do in the village. There were people living in unhappy marriages because that was all they knew and no other options available to them. So they stay in the village and their crap marriages for the rest of their long lives. Not really living their lives to the fullest.
SO GO OUT AND JUST DO IT. THINK BIG, LIVE BIG. CONCEPT BIG.
DONT WASTE ANY MORE OF YOUR TIME OR LIFE WORRYING ABOUT A CRAP GUY AND HIS CRAP LIFE AND WORRY ABOUT YOUR LIFE AND WHAT YOUR GOING TO DO WITH IT FOR THE NEXT 60 YEARS! GOOD LUCK TO YOU!