I am so outraged that he did that. Is it right to look in your daughters diary. I just don't get why he can't just ask what he wants to know. I don't want him knowing all of the things me and my boyfriend do though. I'm f***ed for life now that he read my whole diary. What would you do?
Personally I think its wrong. I wouldn't if I was your dad. However ime not. What I think and what he can do is two completly different things.
Legally speaking if he is your legal guardian he can look at whatver PROPERTY you have. If he wanted to he could go through your underwear drawer, there's nothing that you can do about it.(that would just be super creepy) However that's in the terms of the law. As long as he is not abusing you or something he did nothing wrong.
But why did he do it, there must be something he wanted to know. Or there's must be something he couldn't trust you about. He probably knows, you won't feem comfortable telling him. I mean if there was stuff about you and your boyfriend and how you say your "f***ed for life" you probably wouldn't of been honest.
He saw it and you can't change it. As of what to do from here its hard to say without knowing what he saw. Just be honest with him. Don't lie or say you didn't. Fess up to what you did. It may be embarrassing but its easier to just be stright up then make a big deal and argue.
In the future just don't right down anything you don't want someone to know.
Ime not saying you do but just letting you know. If he's looking at your diary that's private I could easily see him wanting to look at your phone or computer if you have one. I don't know what's on there but chances are between the two there's sites youve visted or messeges youve sent that you don't want him to see. So also be carefull of that.
Yep. Obviously your dad is smart. If you really don't want him to know I'd be willing to bet you wouldn't be honest with him if he were to ask. It's your fault for incriminating yourself. You shouldn't write down or do anything to record things you want to keep private.
f*** yea that's wrong. a persons diary is like them, unfiltered, just raw, you'd have to be sick to read something like that. I could maybe understand just a passage (even that would be sick) but the entire thing? id be so effin pissed id hate that person most likely...
I would get really mad too. It's okay you're mad, he didn't have the right. I would seriously tell him that he wouldn't like me looking into his private stuff, and that he should respect your personal things. Hide your diary somewhere where your parents can't find it.
Now, try forgiving him. Cause remember that it's really tempting to read a diary of someone you know. Maybe he did it to know you better, to understand you, who knows. So to prevent that, hide your better. :)
Just tell your dad that you're really creeped out that he read your personal diary. You're 18+ years old and there are things that you'd rather not have him know about you. Plus, this is your own personal life. A diary is something really sacred, and the only people who you show and let look are the people you truly can trust on a personal level. The thing is, with being a parent, he's just going to have to accept that he can NOT be on that personal level. That's too bad that he did that to you, because how are you going to trust him, now?
I don't think it's a very nice thing to do but he's your guardian and he can do what ever he thinks is right about the situation. That's why you don't write things on paper if you don't want some one else to see them.
I wouldn't. I'd respect my daughter's privacy.
it's perfectly fine. if you live in your parents house then honestly you don't have any privacy. everything you do affects him. suppose you got pregnant - don't you think he'd have to protect you? what if you got an STD or emotionally hurt? stop being so shortsighted just because you think you're grown and can do what you want doesn't make it true. you're a child.
of course you don't want your dad to know what you and your boyfriend do, that's normal. but you are still a child and dependent on your dad so what you and your boyfriend do is very much his business. you shouldn't be "doing" anything with a boy at your age. if he asked you'd probably lie to him anyway so yeah he has to look in your diary to get answers that you probably wouldn't tell him anyway. he's doing it because he wants to protect you. when you get older you'll understand. when I was 13 my dad read my diary and I felt the same way you did, angry hurt and betrayed, but now that I'm older I see why he did it and understand.