I want to bring back chivalry and what a man should be as they mature, but I feel that women in today's society would not appreciate it. I guess the real question is, do women respect/wish to get involved with a chivalrous gentlemen? For those who don't know what it means to be a chivalrous gentlemen, I mean a man who is of high moral standing and dresses very sharply.From what I can see, being a ridiculously dressed Ed Hardy fan who goes to the gym 24/7 to keep a 20-pack while on steroids seems like the only guy women love to be with.
Well I don't believe that chivalry has anything to do with how he dresses. Like you stated in the book you read, "The American Gentleman". It really has to do with courtesy and generosity. That to me is another word for respect.
Do I think the modern gentlemen is dead? No. Definitely not. I believe that women still crave this behavior from men, however the whole "game" is what makes them question if the man's actions are genuine. Insecurities or questions are raised when the man becomes much more tentative then what they are used to with other men. Therefore our attempts to of chivalry isn't appreciated like it used to be.
I don't understand why some girls are into beefcakes :s I've never been attracted to them. As for chivalry...that would be awesome...more guys on horses with hair down to there, with strength and honor! Down with the GUIDOBEAST
First of all, I strongly disagree with the notion of calling gentlemanly acts chivalrous. Chivalry was a Knights' written code in the middle ages that was full of hypocrisy. One of the things it stated was that to commit adultery was a crime, but to rape the wife of a man you killed in fair combat didn't count and was allowed as it was "spoils of victory."
Secondly, I do not consider myself a gentlemanly person. I hold doors open, but not for women. I do it for anybody. I don't do things for one gender that I wouldn't do for another. This is just common courtesy.
Thirdly, the fact that it's apparently rare and obviously dying out means you were incorrect in using the word "modern" in your question header. Nothing modern about it apparently if it's going the way of the dinosaur.
And finally, how does how you dress have ANYTHING to do with being a gentleman of high moral value?
I agree with the your first sentence that "women would not appreciate it." I think it is because of less morality or ethics (if I'm using the right words).
what you find on this very site? You find some set of rules that if you follow, you"ll get a girl (like: what does it mean when a boy keeps staring at me?..this is just one example).
I have never seen a question which states that "What should I see in Men/Women which should reflect what they are, like WHAT THEY ARE not what are pretending to be".
So everything here is set of rules, follow them and try luck. Nobody tries to find the essance of peronality and see what REAL men/women are and how they behave. Impurity is so much into our society. According to me, this is most basic reason for this but there are lot of other. I can speak on and on and on.
Your a dambsh*t in many senses my friend I will help you out, first of I just need to get this out of the way, chivalry is a concept attactched to european knights, that concept has been dead since they stopped building castles. However I know what you mean and hell no it isn't dead just because most guys are assholes now a days dosn't mean that is the standard and your probably just looking into the wrong pool or girls if all the women that you know are with the type of guys that you attracted. If you are going to be a classy guy, look for a classy girl