I am not the kind of girl looking for a relationship and I don't obsess about guys, but there is just this one drunken hook-up that I cannot get over.
So there was this hottie pro-skier at this one party I was at. I saw him and noted that he was very attractive but never thought twice about it because I assumed he was too far out of my league. So I didn't pay any attention to him and then he just starts talking to me and sh*t and like making me sit on his lap and asking me questions and stuff. and this was all before he was very drunk. However I was smashed. So then I assumed that he just wanted some ass, and I did too so it was cool. So we start making out and then I went down on him, but he didn't reciprocate. (keep in mind that this was a canyon party so we were sleeping outside) so then in the morning I woke up and he had moved into the car. He claimed that he was just cold, but refused to get out of the car when a friend asked him what he was doing in there.
Anyway, so then when I left he waved bye. I just don't understand it really. And all I really want is closure.
so three questions
1) is not reciprocating just a d*** move or a lack of interest?
2) does it sound like he just didn't want to see me because he was embarrassed?
And 3) do guys often hook up with girls they actually think aren't attractive just because they are drunk? And if he told people about it does that mean he wasn't ashamed of it?
yeah your suspicions are true. He was just wasted and wanted to blow his load. It doesn't mean you not pretty though, but just not his type.
If a guy is really attracted to you he will go down on you. It is a true acid test of his interest level.
I dated a girl in Hawaii I met online about 5 years ago. I flew all the way to honolulu to meet her (kind of an adventure). When I got there I found out she was much heavier that she looked in her pics. However I talked with her and really got to like her as a person. She had a very pretty face, blond hair and green eyes. However I hate to say this, but the fact she was 20lbs heavy didn't sit well with me. I never said a word and I did sleep with her. One night she started to go down on me and I stopped her. I made up an excuse "I don't get off very easily that way". I never went down her...because I didn't want to.
A week later I got back to Colorado. After texting back and forth she blurted out "why didn't you go down on me" and I said "well you never asked...". Weak excuse, but the truth was way too harsh.
So girls remember if I a guy goes down on you...he REALLY has high interest level in you. Guys will won't go down on any girl.
"Is not reciprocating just a d*** move or a lack of interest?"
Both. I think didn't reciprocate because he wasn't interested - but even if he wasn't interested, he still should've reciprocated, I mean...come on!
"Does it sound like he just didn't want to see me because he was embarrassed?"
I hope not, but maybe so.
"Do guys often hook up with girls they actually think aren't attractive just because they are drunk?"
Some guys hook up with girls they think aren't attractive because they just want sex - no alcohol involved. So yes, there are guys that often hook up with girls they think aren't attractive just because they are drunk.
"If he told people about it does that mean he wasn't ashamed of it?"
If he's boasting about it, then he's not ashamed of it.
He probably didn't reciprocate because you were drunk and thought that you were a slut and didn't go down on you for that reason. And I don't think he was embarrassed. Most guys wouldn't have sex with a woman they found unattractive even if she was drunk. I know I wouldn't. Although, I know one of my friends would.
Congratulations, you may very well have caused another episodic chapter in a guy's life where every time he reminisces back to the night, he wonders to himself, what the hell did I do. Asking if a guy hooks up purely on the basis of being inebriated is like asking if pigs fly yet.
yup. he could be really horny and at he time not care if people find out because he's think while drunk, in the black out state, or he could be one of the guys who will put his d*** in almost any human female.