My fiance was looking at escorts online... what do I do?

Three times in the past, I found phone numbers of escorts lying around in places, and he claimed they were for his buddy who doesn't have internet. I haven't found any since (but since then, we had internet at home - he was originally looking at work/school and writing them down)

The other day he made a joke about something on my computer and I said "lets see what's on yours" and he freaked out and wouldn't let me touch it. After bugging him a bit, he told me it was because of p*rn. I was curious so I went through his browser history when he wasn't home (I know it's bad to do, but I have to be safe) and found that he was looking up escorts on craigslist and other websites. I even saw the ones he clicked on. I looked at his email and didn't find any bad ones, but he could have an alternate email address.

Do you think that he is calling these escorts? or could it be something else? If they were for his friend he wouldn't have freaked out about hiding thhem from me...

Also, he has been distant since about september, being really really loving and cuddly but not too into sex. He claims its because he's too tired and busy from school...

Also in his browsing history I noticed he looked up HIV testing in my area twice...

We've been together for 7 years but I don't know how to broach this subject... especially when I was going through his computer and he's just going to be really mad at me for that


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  • Looking at th eupdate, yes, although I don't know a student can afford them. iIt sounds pretty damning with the HIV testing and all.

    He shows real lack of respect for you by these easily detectable lies!

    In these circumstances, I'd have looked at his browsing hx as well.

    Any guy who goes near escort services, has no respect for women in general, imao.

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What Guys Said 1

  • i think this is just a p*rn kind of thing, since escorts are going to be too darn costly for a student. He's probably just ogling their pictures or someting like that.

    But clearly he's hiding things from you and lying to you. Confront him on that.

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What Girls Said 3

  • Okay, I think you have more than enough grounds for suspicion. This can be very serious, especially if he's cheating behind your back and is concerned about STDs. That can be so dangerous not only for him but for you as well. There's really no way around it, you need to gather your proof and demand an explanation.

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  • yea .. I would be really suspicous about this not about the escorts because it could be for the party or something but the HIV checking out that's really weird especially if he has nothing to hide he would have told you about this without you finding out ! you should check it out before you marry this guy ! hope I helped :D x

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  • I hate to say this, but he might have cheated. Or, this is a very bad guess, he might be looking stuff up for his bachelor party.

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