There is a story I happened to be a part of. A female friend of mine was complaining to me how every guy she tries to hook up with never seems to see who she really is. They always treat her like there is nothing special about her or treat her like she is someone else. So I told her:
"Jane, go up to the mirror and tell me who you see."
She looked over herself and said:
"Well, I am wearing very stylish clothes, the latest trend, my hair is dyed blond and I am wearing some lipstick and other make-up."
"Now, knowing what you look like, what would an average person think of you?" "Well... they would say that I am probably the party type and that I like to listen to Indie and I like to hang out with lots of people and go places. And me being so serious and not smiling... I think that could make them feel I have a problem."
So I said "OK, now tell me what kind of a person you REALLY ARE, the inner side you want people to notice."
"Well, I am intelligent, I like to read books and I love going for a quiet walk in the park. I also like soothing piano instrumental music and I would love to live in Nepal." I smirked, laughed and said:
"Now, do you see the difference? People try to put on different clothes, go with the trend to show style, to show their "identity", to show who they really are. But what they don't understand is that by going with the trend they usually end up looking like... everybody else. They hide their own personality. Compared to who you really are, you dress like a completely different person. People judge you by the looks, whether you want it or not, and when a guy approaches you he expects to see the "party type girl" and not the "romantic intelligent girl". Now, you think about that, try to dress up as a girl you really are."
She thanked me, and that is exactly what she did. Turns out, her "real self" looks like... an average "nice girl", dresses in ordinary clothes, but with unique style. She wears no make-up, her hair is chocolate brown (wow, I never knew!) and for her "average style"-looks she looks... absolutely stunning. I won't lie, my heart skipped a few beats.
You know, all the media, all the movies, all the girls and guys around you... Everything tells a girl that men expect the woman to be hot, have great body, the right size of breasts, whatever. The truth is... it doesn't matter that much, and quite a bit of people are appalled by the Photoshopped models on magazine covers, some can't even stand them.
What DOES matter is that you smile, have kind eyes, you dress the way you want, the way that makes you feel like yourself. Don't stress over you looks, or try to cover up your insecurities with lots of "patch work" and flashy clothes. It is OK to hide a thing or two, but don't try to impress.
I assure you, I know a lot of girls who have average or below average looks, but who follow those simple rules above and... they have a lot of men running after them.