what do you look for in a girl that makes her girlfriend material over just friends or hook up material. same could go for what girls look for in guys.
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Actually I think this is a mis-directed question. I personally don't think it's what the guy is looking for, to discern whether the girl is "girlfriend" or "hook up" material; I think it's the state of mind that the guy is in.
To explain what I mean, think of it as this. Let's say we have a female sitting at a bar, or a coffee shop - she's fun, out going, and generally flirts with guys that gather up the courage to talk to her - nothing more, nothing less.
Now introduce the two guys, one that's looking for a hook up, and the other looking for a girlfriend. Now the guy looking for the hookup (he's on a mission to hook up, that's his state of mind) starts talking to this girl; he think's he is in, because she's fun outgoing, and flirting.
Now the guy who's looking for the girlfriend (he's on a mission to meet a girl, that he can start a relationship with, that's his state of mind) starts talking to this girl; he think's he is in, because she's fun, outgoing, and flirting.
The two guys, the hook up guy, and the relationship guy, see the same girl, and think what they want to think. They don't necessarily look for certain characteristics that would tell them one way or the other (I suppose that's a lie, when it comes to clothes, and the associated "skankiness" factor).
But the point is, the guy is going to tell himself what he wants to think, when it comes to the girl, and not necessarily what the girl is saying etc. All girls are girlfriend material, it's just a matter of what the guy thinks the objective / mission is (i.e. if he just wants a hook up, or an actual relationship)3