Mainly looking for a guy's perspective here...do you (guys) ever pursue a girl purely because she has a great/attractive personality? As in, you're really not very attracted to her physically, but there's something about her personality that you're drawn to?
I assumed that this guy was attracted to me physically because he really did not know me well at all yet would stare/flirt/be all over me, but as we've gotten to talking more, he's made comments that suggest that he's not very attracted to me physically (we've only known each other for 5ish weeks). Yet he put a good amount of effort into seducing me/getting to know me from the beginning (I made it clear to that I wasn't going to be an easy hookup too). I'm so confused...if he was looking for a f-buddy, wouldn't he go for some girl who's body he liked? who he finds hot? I mean, I think I have a decently cute figure and a pretty face but from the things he's said, I really don't think he's into me physically. Yet his body language says otherwise. If he's not attracted to my looks at all, then why did he decide to pursue me rather than just be friends with me?
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Some women have this effect on me aswell, I just like the way they are when they make me feel comfortable, loved, wanted. I had a girl-as-a-friend who was, lets not beat around the bush here, a bit of a big girl, but! she was so sweet, always hugging me, listening to my problems, giving advice, just being there...I loved her for that, but she wasn't to my taste (I like petite girls to be honest!) but then I found I couldn't stop kissing her, getting aroused when she hugged me. I started flirting with her as well, that's what really ruined our friendship...I don't know, it was like I found my perfect woman, in a way I did, but I really didn't find her attractive in looks. I think some women can do this to a guy, only advice I can give you - before your friendship is ruined like mine was...is to distance yourself, be cruel to be kind sort of thing, it's the only way.0