i think I look great...or I try to think I look great. but lately I have been thinking maybe I am wrong. I do love my face, everything about it. I also love my hair, boobs, and was okay with my body until today.
i went on facebook and (my boyfriend and I DO go out with friends without the other) I saw some posts on my boyfriend's page he made. he was saying how good club girls look and how much better they look than hoe-ish half naked women at raves. Him and another male friend were talking, and the other male was exclaiming how he is afraid to approach sexy women...so my man said he will be his wing man at parties in the future. I honestly think I am better looking than my boyfriend, and everyone always tells me it. but I don't care because I can date someone who is not even physically attractive as long as I find what is on the inside attractive. him and his friend were talking about how hot milfs are in Vegas and how hot women are at clubs...but whenever I go out and look better than most of the women at the clubs or wherever he goes, I get no such remark from him. he never tells me I look hot or anything. he will tell me I "look good" or "that looks nice" or "wow your boobs look huge in that". but I want to feel pretty...or sexy...those comments do not make me feel too great.
I'm really down right now, I feel like maybe he doesn't think I am pretty enough. like maybe I should act like more of the snobby hot women him and his friend were talking about. that maybe if I acted more like a bitch or gold digger he would think I am more sexy...and not just some girl. I am starting to think I'm not even pretty anymore. I used to model and everything...but now, I feel like maybe all those photo shoots and gigs weren't because I looked great, but because I looked so bad and they were making a joke by taking pix and paying me me. I don't know what to think anymore...he only tells me he likes how I look if I ask. what should I do? I don't know what to think anymore...why would a guy do this?
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First of all, you have to realize that men will make comments about other womens' looks until the day they die, regardless of whether they are in a committed relationship or not. And even if they don't say it, they're thinking it. So this doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't find you attractive or hot. I doubt he would be with you if he didn't, because it sounds like looks are really important to him.
I do know that sometimes a guy will refrain from complimenting his girl too much if he feels insecure or "less than" in some way, so this could be just a sign of his own feelings of inequity...as far as physical appearance goes. Sometimes this happens too if you've been together for a while, and those initial feelings of excitement and novelty have worn off a bit.
My advice is try not to depend so much on his validation to know that you are attractive and have something to offer. Just because he doesn't say it to you or makes comments about other girls, doesn't mean he doesn't think YOU are hot. When you're away from him, flirt a little bit, enjoy the looks and attention you get from other men. There's nothing wrong with it, and the confidence you get from it will make you even sexier to your guy.2