We men are not usually shallow when it comes to girls we date in terms of money or status, but in the other hand, girls seem to be super shallow about guys.
I was wondering if a girl that has more money than the guy could date a guy with less money. I mean maybe she has a bachelor degree and a professional career, and he works in the Subway or in the 7Eleven.
Could love happen here?
No, girls are very shallow when it comes to money
7% (9)27% (17)13% (26)Vote
Yes, girls don't care about a guy's status
80% (108)21% (13)61% (121)Vote
No, only guys can look beyond status
7% (9)14% (9)9% (18)Vote
Yes, but only one night stand
3% (4)6% (4)4% (8)Vote
No, for girls money and status are more important than love
Here's the thing. The majority of Females are super shallow' they're just super materialistic. That's the majority of females. I'm not gonna lie. I'm not like this though. If a guy is an amzing person who cares what he has? That's me though.
I could definitely date a guy with a lower status, but I personally am a little shallow when it comes to education at the moment because I am a college student. I understand that college isn't for everyone, but I just can't understand why some of the guys around my age have no aspirations.
College aside, I have more of a problem with a guy if he doesn't have a drive to do better in life. Does this Subway/7Eleven worker have a plan? Does he WANT to eventually do something more in regards to his career? It is much more appealing if a guy is a "go-getter" rather than just settling for minimum wage jobs. If you want 'more' in life, you have to go get it.
But honestly, the better question is... could a guy handle dating a woman who makes more money than them? Because I feel like a lot of guys wouldn't be able to handle it and constantly doubt the woman, thinking she 'looks down on him' even if she doesn't. She just wants him to be the best he can be because she sees the kind of man he could be.. he's worth more than a minimum wage job. *coughsomeoneIknowcough*
My answer is really "sort of B" -- We'll date them, but not because we don't care about the status. Depending on the age at which we meet our partner, we might see his potential and want to witness the unfolding of that lovely potential, that spirit, etc.
Sometimes status and money come later -- they do end up being important if you're serious and want to start a family. Being too idealistic about such things poses a threat to your future together. I would definitely say that it's not the only or most important factor, though. Really, trust, honesty and love are the most important. Once you have those, the rest will most likely follow.
Yes, it could. My aunt earns more money than her husband does (she's a doctor, he's specialized in computer sciences and works longer hours than she does, but she still earns more!) and it worked out perfectly fine. There are those girls who will be extremely picky about who they marry/date though. Like "he has to have a stable job, enough money, a house" - but in the end, does that matter? I'd marry or consider a serious relationship with a guy who had decent manners and good enough education for us to abide by and that'd be enough. I guess in the end, it all depends on the girl. Women make a lot of mistakes when it comes to dating and are very aware of what society, family, friends etc. will think of them. I've noticed they go for looks or money over a decent, educated guy who earns an average salary but hey, that's just to show how shallow our gender is. Not generalizing but most of my friends would pick a rich/hot guy over an average-looking/not-as-rich one if given the chance. And then they ask why divorce rates are going up. :/
I can't give an honest answer to this poll because my answer isn't even there. I could definitely date a guy who was less wealthy/didn't make as much money/wasn't as successful but I just have one thing I need and that is for you to have a job. I would never work my ass off and date a guy who didn't have a job or a vehicle. The last thing I need when I'm working just to keep my own head above water is a mooch draggin' me under. How much money a guy makes is irrelevant, the point is that he is a)working and what would be even better is b)working at something he is passionate about or at least enjoys.
this was difficult because your answers are all or nothing. some girls would date him, others wouldn't. it depends on the girl, and it also depends on the guy (his personality, appearance, their chemistry, etc.). it isn't either all about money or not about money at all. there is a lot that goes into a relationship.
when it comes to money, I need a guy with a decent job yes, a guy that has goals and wants a better job yes, but money...yeah I wouldn't date a BROKE dude who never wanted to take me out, but even if he was poor and tried to do things for me and take me places its alright...as long as he got his sh*t together if I were to marry him
Yes! I'm doing exactly that...I was brought up in a wealthy family but always raised to never think of myself as better than anyone. My boyfriend was not so fortunate. He grew up in a not so wealthy family . But, I love him just as I would if he were wealthy. Social class means nothing and money by all means should not be considered in relationships. Girls are not as shallow as most men would think
Some people are shallow, caring about money or looks or status or fancy cars. Some are not. It doesn't matter what gender you are. Some girls are shallow, some guys are shallow. Some girls are not shallow, some guys are not shallow. Some are in between. Etc.
Well I think that money and status doesn't matter as long as the guy and the girl have true feelings for each other. If they are both shallow, I doubt there is anyway of them working it out when they just care about money and status.
I have my degree and my man works at Home Depot and has no degree... I love him more than anyone! It can happen and happens all the time. Society is accepting it more and more. It used to be unacceptable for the woman to make more money but things have changed!
Only the good women will have anything to do with a guy without much money in the US. At least among the mainstream women; women in immigrant and minority communities are much less inclined that way.
There aren't many such women but they are worth searching for!
The poll is interesting in that the girls won't admit it's this way.. 28 out of 34 are lying flat out about this. I'm not saying that many are shallow and venal, but that many aren't willing to admit what their sisters are generally really like!
The guys' responses, I think, correspond more to reality. I'm a little surprised at how deceitful the women are being on this question.
The six women who chose #!, 3,4 ot 5 please identify yourselves and take a bow for your honesty!
The OP is obviously verry bitter about something. People like to associate with what they're familiar with, and that's largely themselves. I'm sorry that's the reality. When we become adults, we find people who are similar to us, understand us, share our values, etc. I'm an entrepreneur with a business and most of my friends and contacts are similar. I haven't met any female entrepreneurs, but I also can't really date a girl who works at McDonald's (outside of colleg) and has a screw-the-boss attitude. That doesn't make me a jerk, it makes me want a relationship that will last based on shared interests and experiences. So don't come here and ask a question and then snipe at everyone's answers and call them disingenuous.
Well, this is a very biased poll. Either they completely disregard your status, or will pick you up and dump you like garbage. They do take status into consideration, but it doesn't mean *everything*.
The question is more of do your other redeeming qualities make up for your lack in status. It can. Most of the time it doesn't have anything to do with status, but your attitude. People with high status generally are pretty confident, comfortable people, whereas people with lower status tend to be twitchy and highly reactive, defending their few good qualities from any harsh judgement. Girls don't like guys who have to stroke their own ego to feel good.
I worked at Subway, and while I didn't hook up with anyone while I was there (kind of detoxing), that doesn't mean I couldn't. Just don't talk about your job on the date.
pssshhhh what a bunh of sh*t man, girls do care about status more than man, that is a fact the girls whos say yes were girls that didn't have many choices, or with issues that decided to fix the man somehow. Also just wait until they are old enough when they are thinking to get married.
The sad thing is that many claim B, but it's a lot more like E. Not that it's entirely their fault and it is something that I believe is dying a bit, but for generation after generation the idea was always women secured their life through the man's status and so their status/wealth mattered. Granted over the last hundred years that's been decreasing, but it's still a part of many societies and it's really kinda sh*tty. Women might claim that it doesn't factor in, yet they themselves seem to have a problem with a guy who is "unmotivated" or something even though I've seen that guy to be perfectly motivated, just not towards things like wealth.
I think usually, it's meant to be the guy who has the money in the relationship. The guy is the one who has to treat the girl to restaurant meals, holidays, outings etc. You can't be cheap and expect the girl to pay for things, that's the man's job. I know it may sound unfair to some. For many years it's supposed to be the man's job to take charge!
From what I've heard, many girls go for successful, popular men over the ones with less money and status.
The sad truth is that girls don't date hobos.
But as long as you have a place to live and some sort of job and get enough money you should be okay, you don't have to be rich.
Entitled: study shows 75 Percent of Women Say They Won't Date Unemployed Men.
Wow look at all those liars.
I think it varies from woman to woman. In my experience, the older the woman gets, the more picky they become on how much money the guy makes (I've also seen it backfire on some women, who were way to picky and grew older and alone). Some people are just shallow, feelings come second in a relationship for them, I've seen these women become completely miserable as well - but they have their financial stability! You will run into people like this, its best to just avoid them and find someone else. The problem is a lot of women go for the wrong type of guy and get run through the ringer and become miserable. After a while they just want a man that will treat them right. So, could love happen here - absolutely. But it all depends on what type of person she is.