If he is a very good looking guy and you find him physically attractive, what would he have to do to turn you off and make you not go out with him even once? Like if he was needy, or lacking confidence, or poor, or too cocky, or stupid? What would be the single personality problem that would totally blow this hot guy's chances?
The inability to communicate is a huge turnoff. Sometimes guys turn into stone walls and you don't know what they're thinking/feeling. Then, they will suddenly do something out of the blue and it can be confusing and hurtful.
It's very frustrating. I say this because of my experience! I have dated a few 26/27 year old guys who I thought would be mature enough to have the communication thing down, but I was wrong. Arrogance would be a close second!
There are a few, being needy is annoying because you can't do anything without the guy getting offended that he isn't invited or isn't there with you. Being cocky is a big one, a guy who thinks he is too good for anyone is a bad trait. Lacking confidence is also a problem because sometimes that's all the guy talks about "Ohh I'm no good, nobody wants me, I'm ugly, etc" Makes the girl feel annoyed because she can't prop him up no matter what she says, he just will always feel bad, and no one wants to be near a negative person.
Lots of those would do it for me honestly. Not really the poor one. But definitely if he was needy, insecure, too cocky or stupid. I may not know that he has any of those qualities until I go out with him once. But if he revealed those qualities beforehand, I wouldn't go out with him at all.
I really get put off by those guys who are so loud everyone has to hear them. Like those Gus most people crowd around because he's confident or whatever. To me they're just annoying. Confidence ks good but not if you're loud about it >> also as someone said before, afraid to make physical contact
Great question but just one out of those? Too hard of a decision I wouldn't be able to say just one. And like another said, poor wouldn't be an issue for me either. But I cannot stand a needy boyfriend. I had two of those and I hope to not have one again. Cocky can be an issue if he acts like a jerk all the time. And I like a guy that has some smarts and can be funny and all that good stuff, but not in you term "stupid". So a guy without those three qualities would be great!
drama queens. my step-dad is the queen of all drama, and yes I mean queen, cause he can't even be considered a man with all of his whining and complaining. seriously, grow a pair lol. I can't stand when a guy thinks it's important to tell you and everyone everything that is not okay with him. it just sparks arguments and debates over unimportant things.
Too cocky, or a player. Complete and utter turn off, right away. Needy guys are cute, as long as it isn't to a 24/7 extent. Lacking confidence isn't bad, as long as a girl can make them feel a little bit better when she tells him SHE thinks he's perfect. Poor isn't a turn off at all, if you're not materialistic. But too cocky, YES. Stupid... sometimes. Not like, just not book smart. Like if he's just plain f***ing stupid, like omg... wtf are you doing? It doesn't matter if he's not a straight A student.
i really don't think the women are putting enough thought into most of these answers, saying cockiness is a turn off is such a generic answer it seems and I called it before I even read the comments, but honestly I think women are lying to themselves when they say that, yea I've had chicks in the past be turned off by my cockiness, but I know for a fact that that same trait was what attracted them in the first place , just from an animalistic ideology , in nature the man usually fights another man to win the affection of the female, so cut it out with all the macho, cockiness is a turn off thing
im pretty sure its a pretty thin tightrope to walk with the line between what's a turn on and turn off
notice the female chauvinism in spadecharade's answer: if a man chooses to not communicate, or if he doesn't communicate when and how a woman wants, it's an "inability to communicate."
here's why men often "turn into stone walls" when women ask about our feelings: women often don't really care about men's feelings. no, what women want is some words. because once we give them words, women can twist the words, beat us up with them, use the words as weapons against us, and use the words in an attempt to control us. and because women are more verbally inclined than men, they usually win -- men give up out of exhaustion.