OK I'm only 5'4'' and until this incident I've never even been remotely concerned about my height at all. But now I'm constantly thinking about it.
I met this girl through a bunch of friends the other day and we keep bumping into each other at uni and now we have started talking a lot. Everytime we bump into each other we end up flirting with each other and we have done it a few times in front of our friends. But I didn't take it seriously because I know a lot of girls who flirt for fun and just to get some attention.
Anyway I asked her out on a date and she told me she would think about it and let me know. She told her girl friends that I asked her on a date and they said ''Oh my god, he is so short, you can do so much better''. I know this because one of the girls came back and told me this and she is one of my closest friends so she would tell me exactly what was said.
So does that mean that if a guy is short then he is out of a girl's league? Or does it make him automatically unattractive?
I know most girls like tall/taller guys but this girl is the same height as me with her heels on. What's the big deal?!
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We all have aspects of our physical appearance or personality that some will disparage and others will flock too. It is hurtful that you had to find out what these girls said.
Height is not an issue for me unless the guy is shorter than me without heels on. Even then, as long as he feels more substantial than me (muscular and/or confident), I have dated a few guys who were shorter than me with heels on, maybe the same height without shoes. I would let this go and just chalk it up to a comment by someone who wasn't addressing you as human being with feelings, but sizing you up as some sort of Ken Doll who should be critiqued as just that. Get back to your normal confident state that you were in before that as the only thing worse than hearing this comment would be to make it your own opinion about yourself.
I am an attractive woman, stable, great career, strong and independent. Some men love me with a passion. Some men avoid me like the plague and many I am sure are ambiguous. I keep my ears and my heart open for the man who thinks I am amazing. I let the others find their version of paradise. Do the same, you deserve it.0