Looks really aren't so important to me. At all. I'm not an unattractive girl, and if I had a good-looking guy nobody would look at us and say "ew why is he with her!". (Not trying to be conceited, I just know I'm not ugly. Doesn't mean I think I'm perfect at all, or that people should kiss the ground I walk on.) But when I think of what I want in a boyfriend, looks aren't one of the first things I think of. In fact, I've been very strongly attracted to guys who weren't exactly gorgeous, and I've met some very good-looking guys who didn't attract me at all. To me, it's about personality, chemistry, goals, etc. Not just looks. In fact, if you asked me to choose between an extremely handsome guy and an average looking one and the average one had everything else I'm looking for, I'd pick him over the handsome one in a second.
I tried to explain to a guy how looks don't matter to me, because he is very into looks, and he just didn't get it, how looks aren't the most important thing to me.
How much do looks matter to you? Do any girls feel the same way?
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Male-of-the-species calling and yes, looks matter to me. Yet I have so often seen your outlook — a lovely girl with an ordinary looking guy — that I think you can take it that it is quite a frequent pairing. And yes, that ordinary looking guy will have Something. But there are both Positive Somethings and Negative Somethings that I have seen reeling girls in. You and other questioners might find this list informative:
Positive Somethings (that make Mr Ordinary-Looking attractive)
(i) Laughter, and the ability to make YOU laugh
(ii) intelligence; financial shrewdness (especially if linked to generosity lol!)
(iii) Alpha-male dominance: he walks into the room, and that's the last you see of the room...
(v) physical strength
(vi) the ability to listen
(vii)stereotypically-female traits such as sensitivity, artistic gifts or gentleness.
Negative Somethings (that make Mr Ordinary-Looking attractive, but will end up biting you in the ass)
(i) classic pickup artist traits/techniques, especially tactical negging (saying something casually disparaging about you, forcing you to prove him wrong)
(ii) cruelty — to which, B.I.ON., some women can become addicted
(iii) Alice-in-Wonderland scheming, to which he draws you in. You both enjoy the fantasy, but at least one of you wakes up broke/in jail/grounded/busted.