OK, so here's the deal. I am 5 foot 4, and weigh 200 lbs, I'm the girl "friend" and I am "one of the guys" when it comes to sports. I've even been called a guy. I don't wear makeup all the time. When I wear makeup like my friends, I feel like I'm wearing a mask. But I'm pretty feminine. I love to dress up and although I don't have the clothes or the money for the clothes, I try to dress feminine once in a while. I have Pretty big boobs, big enough to where no one can miss them no matter what I wear, and a pretty good ass, but the thing is, guys aren't attracted to me. I've been reading about stuff on here and guys always suggest loosing weight will solve all of a big girl's problems.. But It simply doesn't. I'm not changing for any guy. Maybe for myself, but I'm afraid that if I change, either guys will like me, and that will make me feel worse, because that means I have to change for a guy, or guys will still pass me by and I will again feel worse. OK, I just need HELP! Anyone have any advice they can give me?
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"guys always suggest loosing weight will solve all of a big girl's problems"
Guys who say this, then say a boob job will solve all of a big girl's problems, maybe a different wardrobe, different hair, etc. What they're saying is: I don't like you. You don't want these guys.
And you will feel worse if these guys if these guys like you after you lose weight, not because there's anything wrong with you, but because you'd be attracting these shallow nitwits.
What to do instead? Be fun and flirty and friendly, watch for those guys who like you NOW for who you are. These guys like you for what you can bring to the relationship *right now*, not for how you could change to make them happy.1