People are usually like, "you're so beautiful, pretty, handsome. Etc" and then when I look at the picture, I'm thinking, am I looking the same person they are? I usually don't find any of them good-looking, and it seems like everyone is just filling their heads with lies to make them feel better about themselves. Why not just be honest? Maybe my head is to far up my own ass, but that's just how I see it.
They are being politically correct. People on here go out of their way to lie. I remember I answered a question from a girl asking if she was too fat, I said yes because it was obvious, thighs were rubbing and she was obviously overweight and I got so many thumbs down but everyone else went out of their way to lie.
I also think some people spot low self esteem for some users and will continue to press that they are good looking.
You're right...people give-out waaaay too many compliments to fat ugly people on this site...I'm guessing they're just trying to be nice (I lie to people all the time about their being good looking, because I figure ugly people need friends too) ...you're so beautiful by the way...
It could be because those people have spent a bit more time in the real world, than you have.
Studies have shown that kids who spent a lot of time watching television, have very very unrealistic expectations of what people should look like to be considered attractive.
These kids also have body image issues, are more likely to get cosmetic surgery, etc... etc...
If you actually stopped watching the television, and started looking at people in the world around you, you'd realize there are many different standards of beauty. It's not the narrow spectrum that TV networks would have you believe.
It's usually say something nice or say nothing at all I guess... If I see a question like that and can't say anything nice I just move on. Actually these days I can't be bothered answering those questions as it requires too much going through websites to look at pictures then go back and write an answer. I do know a lot of girls write less critical things about other girls, moreso if they're friends... Which does my head in, because it's usually gorgeous girls telling their overweight friend they're gorgeous when really their friend should be telling them. I guess that's why some gorgeous people really don't seem to know how attractive they are...
People feel the need to keep a spotless persona this site, and the conform in the same way that society does and they become politicaly correct. Even I'll admit I don't like being brutal... Most of the time.
What an ugly world it would be if we just told everyone the truth 24/7.
"Bitch, yes that dress makes your ass look FAT. no, not phat, f***ing FAT."
Therefore, I have always lived by if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all. Especially if that something is a lie.
Unfortunately sometimes we are placed in situations in which we HAVE to use euphemisms, like when its your boss or girlfriend feeling kinda low you know? In that case, I don't see any harm done but online? Yeah I don't understand either..
so you;re implying your not good looking or attractive - nice
people have different tastes - I'm not aware of anyone that is attractive to 100% of the population. Some are more than others, but there's usually always someone who doesn't think so. Unless they ask for it, most of the time if people make a comment on someones picture they mean it IMO
If I find the poster to be unattractive, I just don't post a response. Vis-a-vis if I think they are attractive I will usually tell them so. I've even asked a few of these sorts of questions myself, because I'm quite insecure. I've gotten mixed responses, but the negative ones actually make me feel worse. So, I just don't see the point in making other people with fragile self-esteem issues feel bad when it isn't necessary, that's all.
Honesty is the best policy. I usually try to be as constructive as I can though, because I believe this to be a constructive site. Also, not everyone will think the same person is ugly or beautiful. Some women find me very unattractive, sometimes due to my height, facial features or color...but then there are other girls who think I have decent qualities as well
Beauty's subjective, but yeah, sometimes people do lie to boost someone's confidence. I try to stick to giving genuine complements, or not commenting at all. However, there's rarely someone I find without any good qualities. So, if they want my opinion on their appearance, I'll tell them what I like about them and leave out general statements like "you're so beautiful." If they ask I'll suggest to them ways in which they can improve, but I do it with some tact.
you know what I'm sorry. I can't be like you, saying mean things about people is not who I am especially publicly, I just don't like how someone can get on hear and say something mean about someone they don't even know, and I just stooped to that level. It won't happen again and you can accept this apology if you want to or not, it's up to you. I'm sorry and I take back the mean things that I said, you are a very pretty girl don't let abyone tell you any different, but not a lot of people out there are as genetically blessed as you, so stop giving them a hard time about what they can't control.
i must agree with jewfrojoey, if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all. what one finds attractive may not be to you and vise versa. not everyone has the same opinion as yours. so how can you say people lie?
Belgie is also correct. media is a terrible thing on the influence of kids and teens. Just because you don't have tv, you have internet obviously. SCHOOL even does that.
You have some growing up to do with how narrow minded you are. I sure as heck hope you don't act like this in the place you you consider "real world".
idk maybe its like their opinion or somthing or they are just too big of pussies to say the truth (speaking of that I need someone to be honest with me I had just asked on here if I was ugly and I know someones guna lie so can you answer it because you seem very honest)
im not saying you should lie and tell someone who is ugly they are pretty.. but you shouldn't be mean.. seriously did we all forget what out parents told us in the first grade "if you don't have anything nice to say don't say it at all"
because that person is insecure & others want to make them feel better
No..people just aren't always entirely honest.Sometimes they choose "nice" over "honesty".
seriously though, when you say that people are told lies "to make them feel better about themselves" does that mean you want people to know the reality so they feel worse about themselves? really?
if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say it, why bother with the lies or unnecessary brutality about it. most people KNOW the truth about themselves, they know when they're fat, or ugly, or whatever and having someone say something nice to them just gives them a small boost of confidence. it's not like a couple of compliments is going to turn them from self esteem rock bottom to divatude. so sometimes, yes, people will give inflated compliments but really, it's not hurting anyone. and maybe some of these people DO find them attractive, it might not always be lies, could just be different tastes from yours.
Ok I'll be honest, You look like a midget, have a big ass and nose, and no freakin t*ts whatsoever, I'm talkin itty bitty titty committee, anthills, mosquito bites. THIS is why people LIE because the truth hurts! Enjoy!