Is it real or is it fake? What you see on television all the time, the nerdy guy getting the hot girl of his dreams. Is that only a fantasy or is there hot girls out there who would actually give the ugly nerdy guy a chance?
Despite all the yes and no on here it seems as though no one has a definite clue as to how the nerd can get the hot girl. Its a long explaination but to put it simple the answer is yes. The nerd is very likely to get the hot girl.
I was asked to explain. Its all about chemistry to its core. Think about this. If the asshole guy can get the girl simply by abusing her mentally then the nerdy guy can get the girl by literally 'boring' her. It sounds far-fetched and even down right stupid but its a strange thing, this chemistry. For further explaining here's a link that goes into long detail. Be prepared to read.
I doubt it. Most of the "hot girls" I know date within their group. The "hot guys".
TV is fake. It's not even based on reality. I think the whole ugly guy/hot girl thing is to make guys feel better about themselves or make them think "hey, I like this show because it makes me feel like I could get a hot girl!"
I have always been attracted to "nerdy" guys. I have always done well academically and I'm not terrible on the eyes so whenever I came across a guy who understood and learned faster than I did, I couldn't help but be so attracted to their mind and everything with it. It did concern me though when those boys would try to alter their looks or behavior. I'd take a brain over a face any day. It's so hot!
I've seen it happen, it's definitely possible. But the nerd has to be assertive, confident, and believe in himself, which is usually the opposite of what people consider a nerd. So in other words, he can be into Star Wars and speak Klingon but he has to believe in himself, not be a doormat, and stand up for himself and his woman and be socially/emotionally flexible.
I would try to help him with his fashion and style issues if he's truly a good guy then I'd date him. but I'm pretty picky who I go out with and so far haven't gone out with a nerdy type of guy yet. I would rather date a nerdy guy because hopefully he's intelligent but he'd have to work harder to connect with me and vice versa.
I would want someone who is truly a good person and not someone who is just after a hot girl..
It can be real.. because personality and intelligence can make up for attractiveness in many many cases. What do you mean by nerdy? Do you mean 'focused in their studies' type of nerdy? and when you mean 'nerdy' as an appearance, what does that mean? what does 'nerdy' look like?
It would help if you posted a photo and we can suggest ways to improve your appearance (ie: shaving off the yeti beard and mustache as it doesn't make you look strong as masculine, styling your hair with wax, wear fitting clothes, working out at the gym to tone up)
Honestly most of the guys who go up and hit on pretty girls are the drunks/cocky/guys just wanting anygirl... The jerks who girls don't want
but the girls go for them because the jerks actually go up and ask them out. It's as simple as that. If you want a hot girl- talk to her- it's no harder than the theoretical physics of string theory or loop quantum gravity if you prefer it
I guess it depends on how ugly you mean on a scale of 1-10. I've always preferred nerds, but yeah, you always need some sort of physical attraction to get the momentum going. In terms of physical appearance, I'm a 7-8, so I probably wouldn't go below a 4. If Maurice Moss from the IT Crowd was real, I'd be all over him right now.
Just if there a good person... And honestly id rather date a nerd than a jerk
Ya, but he has to actually get to know her. Just thinking of her as "some hot chick" isn't any different than the hot, shallow guy has to offer ... it's just missing the hotness.
i think if this guy was an actual nerd, meaning SMART, he'd get hot, and stop worrying about certain girls wanting him. instead he'd wait for all the girls to want him after he becomes smart and gorgeous lol. another way to get girls..become their friends. I know brilliant lol.
i wouldn't advise abusing girls mentally...that really is only supposed to be used if your only going to sleep with them, and even then...its cruel! you really want to make girls feel like sh*t? I don't think so!
pretty girls are just like normal girls, except they get more offers. all you have to do is stand out...it is harder to stand out when you look terrible(just wear better clothes?) but not impossible. just show her something emotionally meaningful with your smarts and your in.
For the most part it is a television fantasy.The ugly nerdy guy may be getting the girl of his dreams, but why would the hot girl want him when there are tons of other guys to choose from? Hot girls usually date other hot guys, or guys who are cute... they rarely if ever will date an ugly nerdy guy unless the ugly nerdy guy is rich and successful and breaks bread with them. other than that it is fake.
I hate the weird twisted logic of these kind of questions, nerdy/old/ugly guy feels bad because 18 year old hotties don't tend to go for him..
But never once would it cross his mind that there is probably a lot of lovely woman out there, age and nerd appropriate for him, he just doesn't give them a look in because they are guilty of exactly the same things he is ie, not being 18 or not being fantastically beautiful.
You dream of some amazing cutie out there who'll see beyond your flaws even though you yourself are too shallow to find attraction in a girl who's more your equal .
You expect hot girls to give you a chance, when you yourself wouldn't give anyone like you a chance.
how about instead of asking this question you ask yourself why you don't give girls at your own level a chance?
It's possible but NOT in the way it's normally portrayed in TV and movies. In those cases, the guy is invariably completely socially awkward, very introverted, can't start or hold a conversation, AND totally dotes on and caters to a girl in every way. All of that is guaranteed to end in failure in real life.
As all the girls here have said, personality matters. That means you've got to have confidence in yourself, your beliefs and your abilities. It's totally possible to develop your confidence and your social skills--it just takes some dedicated work. Most "nerdy" guys are more than capable of putting in the work to get results. After all--most have done EXACTLY that in other areas of their lives like school and work. Where a lot of them fail is in thinking it's hopeless and in not trying to make any changes to improve their love lives.
As one of the greatest nerds ever said, "the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."
I think it's tough to say. Since you are in the 18-24 year old range, I'd say that it would be tough. I've never seen stuff like that happen in real life. Besides maybe a few examples, most "cliques" tend to stay close to what they know, meaning someone from their own social circle or one that they can feel comfortable with. So if you are way outside of this by whatever definition of "nerd" that you are, it's going to be down to your abilities to talk to them I'd say.
One of my buddies Googled something about Hooters girls and happened to find a link that said something along the lines of "Would a Hooters girl ever date anyone other than the really desirable men?". A lot of what the people said (it was on Yahoo Answers) was basically that you would need to be a smooth talker, otherwise no. I guess I could understand this somewhat. If you aren't a "normal" socializer then I'd say it's going to be hard for you to connect with ANYONE, let alone this pretty girl you want to talk to. But I guess if you could speak well enough and could really let her see what you're all about, then they might be alright with you and your so-called nerdiness.
But I'd say don't listen to me lol, I'm just as lost on the whole topic of girls lately. As much as I want to believe the girls that answered here, I'm still skeptical for some reason. I've only ever seen pretty girls with attractive/desirable guys, so I don't know any different and never have seen it with my own eyes.