Anyways, why do men say this?
"I like girls with tattoos, but I won't marry a girl that has them."
Anyways, why do men say this?
I wouldn’t marry a woman with tattoos. Why? I just hate tattoos on women. I literally hate the way they look. To me personally there is nothing more attractive than a woman’s beautiful skin. Scarring it with some permanent ink image just effs it all up. The biggest thing is that it is permanent, it will be there forever. I don’t want to marry someone and hate looking at that tattoo my whole life.
Maybe a really, really tiny little thing on the ankle or something I’d be willing to date her but big ones, sleeves or more prominent ones larger than a nickel or so, I’d pass. I’m not attracted to women who have man made, permanent ink scars in their flesh.
Not only do I literally HATE the way they look, but the mindset behind it turns me off too. Someone looked at their gorgeous, beautiful body and thought permanently scarring it with ink and human drawn pictures “improved” their look? I mix with that like oil and water. I couldn’t feel more opposite.
I love the way women’s skin looks naturally and hate the blot of dark ink and pictures intentionally put there. I’d never marry who has done that to herself because I literally hate how they look and my impression is always “wow, she was so beautiful, why did she F up her skin with that hideous crap”
So, I differ from your question in that you said “I like girls with tattoos but….” … I don’t like girls with tattoos. I find tattoos so ugly that I immediately rule them out as dating candidates. The women I marry will be someone without tattoos.
I don't know why they say it. I guess its because they fear being judged by certain people. Or because of what dryad said. I personally would marry a woman who has tattoos. But they better not have a tattoo on their lower back.
It's really one of those things that depends on guys. I have a friend who has a full sleeve and a few tattoos elsewhere on her body. They look great, and she has been in this relationship with this guy for a few years. He doesn't seem to mind them. So it's basically just a thing where you have to find someone who can accept them. Nothing wrong with tatts, guys who don't like a girl with tatts are just ignorant.
Tattoos say nothing about someone's sexual life or whether they are trashy or smoke or drink heavily or anything. A lot of people have tatts, so I would think that its becoming more accepted. If you are concerned, bring it up when you first meet a guy. Ask him what he thinks about them. If he runs when he finds out you have tatts, well you dodged a bullet there. No need to waste your time on those ignorant jerks :) Find a guy who will appreciate you for who you are :D
Btw, I am not saying this because I have tatts, I am tatt free, but I do think they look awesome!
Actually you're ignorant, just because a guy doesn't want to date a girl with tats does not make him ignorant. That's like saying a guy doesn't like girls with facial piercings, or doesn't date a girl because she is black or a certain race. It's called preference, and last time I checked people have the right to have preference. Not everyone is attracted to tattoos, maybe they want someone more unique, like a women without them... My husband and I refuse to tattoos, because everyone our age seem to follow the crowd, now not getting a tattoo is actually making a statement. We have self control!
Good for you I guess. I don't see not getting a tattoo as self control. I see it as simply not wanting one so not getting one. Having self control would be to want one and not get it for whatever reason.
My answer was geared more to a guy who is being ignorant. Not someone who simply has a preference. I was referring to the people who stereotype those with tattoos. I understand people have preferences. However, hopefully people would be a little open minded and not completely judge a person based on one thing alone.
Those are usually the guy that say they will have sex with promiscuous girls but only marry a virgin - they have double standards that just don't make sense.
However, I've never encountered this in real life - it's only on GAG. I am moderately tattooed - I have my entire back done and additional ones on my torso and stomach. Realistically I will get more. It's only the small minded people who assume you're trashy, promiscuous or that you have no prospects. In reality I have completed my law degree, am in a happy relationship (with someone who loves the art on my skin) and present myself well. My male mates love women with tasteful ink (and not just for a one nighter).
In short, ignore the guys that say stuff like that. It doesn't represent the majority of the population - ESPECIALLY not the ones you'd want to be with.
Well. I know my friend and I classify girls he is interested in into two groups: Girls he would date and have sex with, and girls he would some day want to marry. Although he loves both sets of girls, he loves them in different ways. So maybe some guys would be extremely turned on by tattoos, but when it comes to settling down, they want a girl without tattoos. I know my friend wants to marry a smart girl who went to college, yet is more attracted to 'bad girls'. Some guy will want to marry you, every guy likes their own thing.
This is precisely one of the reasons why the tattoos I have are both able to be completely covered up--I love my tattoos but I don't want to deal with the idea of people judging me for them, either in a professional or formal situation. Most people don't even know I have them because I don't "look" the type.
I get that too. Most people do not think I would ever drink or go to the bar. then when they find out they get so surprised. I have tats and they get shocked when they see it because to them I do not see the type to do that. All it is is stereotypes.
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Historically tats were created by savages for tribal purposes then colonials used them to identify slaves and criminals. Today it’s counter culture alternatives and sex workers so any girl who is younger with an underdeveloped prefrontal cortex will think she is edgy but she’s just adopting a trite talking point and social lubricant like alcohol and smoking which are poisonous and degenerative just like tattoo ink. It’s a barbaric rite of passage for military about to die and vapid sorority girls so if you’re looking for an easy girl who will let you do anal and threesomes chances are she has tats and will be proud that she PAID someone to physically violate and scar her for like and then walk around giving said perpetrator free advertising. Not sound decision making and she probably won’t grow up to be a doctor or professional anything except sex worker and once she hits the wall at 28 or so she’ll have nothing but saggy tats, venereal disease and prolapsed orifices to offer, in that order. Girls with tats are proclaimed rental cars use them and abuse them like everyone else before and after you take pics then give them back ridden hard and put away wet. They age horribly, are high maintenance and a terrible return on investment. Letting a kid get a tat is child abuse and will land you in jail for good reason. It shows horrible judgement. Just because a girl turned 18 and legally can make decisions doesn’t change anything it’s still poor judgement and abuse like it was yesterday when she was 17. As the quality of girls rises you see less and less tats some medical schools won’t admit students with tats or gauge piercings because if you show questionable judgement with your own body how are you going to take care of someone else? If your kid needs brain surgery and the surgeon is sleeved has neck or face tats are you really gonna let him slice up your toddler? Low inhibitions=bad decisions so I actually appreciate girls with tats lets me know up front they are cheap and easy they probably have impaired mate selection and chose low quality abusive bad boy types because they have faulty conditioning and mentally deficient socialization thus they don’t know their own inherent value so no need to wine and dine just use and abuse. Men appreciate in value as they age while women depreciate dramatically as the age in reproductive and sexual market value bang as many tatted up pot smoking tinder swiping young girls as you can but don’t date or marry them they are literally a festering toilet that everyone has dumped their waste into then they flush put on makeup and go out to find their next donor. Don’t date a dumpster or try to tame a tatted toilet.🚽🧻
A tattoo is a good way to tell me a woman likes to follow the crowd and cannot think long term. These days, NOT having a tattoo is a sign of someone who has enough internal resources to not feel the need to be "among", which is an attractive trait to me.
The problem with the average woman today is a lot of them grew up without fathers. Without the fatherly love to help them understand that they are enough and don't have to do permanent crazy things with their bodies to get attention.
The underlying psych behind everyone taking a tattoo is that they want to look unique... Unfortunately, they just end up looking uniquely trashy. Especially when that tattoo has faded out and now looks like a disgusting blob on their skin.
And that's the thing, it tells me this woman has no understanding of the concept of permanence. Because if she did, she will realize that getting a tattoo makes no sense given the lifetime requirements and unnecessary life adjustments of having that tattoo (hiding, covering, missed opportunities, foreign restrictions, etc) vs whatever temporary pros she received from it. I would not get into a hopefully permanent relationship with someone incapable of understanding what permanence means and weighing their actions on that scale.
My thing is this, how can I teach my future daughter that getting a tattoo like every other basic female is a terrible idea when her mom has a trampstamp?
Two possibilities.
One is that they are indeed projecting that tattoo = wild girl for short term fun only. That's possible, but the exact quote you provide doesn't suggest that to me.
Instead I'd guess its more that your partner's appearance and style does reflect on you. You are confident enough to deal with the reactions that come from having tattoos. They may not be confident enough to deal with the reactions that come from having a heavily tattooed wife.
I'd suggest that part of that may be the social circles they move in. Most people move in multiple circles, and some women, and men, spend time in both circles where tattoos are fully accepted (and may personally like them) but also spend time in circles where tattoos are not well accepted. If you marry someone, you'd be bringing them into both.
My first serious girlfriend is a good example of this. When we got together she had pierced ears and no tattoos. By the time she left me, she had many tattoos including a massive back piece of the tree from The Little Prince which covered her entire back, two more piercings in each each, tattoos of pet rats, and a tongue stud. I loved her certainly, but I wouldn't have married her. I wouldn't have wanted to taken someone like that to make appearances at formal events of which there will be many more in my future. It has nothing to do with what I think about the tattoos - I honestly didn't care since the lights were usually off when she was bare skinned. But I didn't want to hear about it from the douch*bags of high society. I made my choice to be a part of it so I understand the consequences. My mother was certainly happy once that girl was out of the picture.
Anyway, she wasn't deprived of anything. She ended up fu*king everyone and breaking up with me, LOL.
My only theory on this is the "bad girl" thing. Just like some girls go for bad guys, some guys go for bad girls. They want to take those girls home, but not home to meet mama. It's their way of flirting with danger, or at least thinking they are. They're usually the same guys who have nicknames like "Chip", hang out at the country club and think that Sid Vicious was the bad guy in a James Bond movie. I know tattoos don't automatically make you a bad girl, but some guys believe that anyway.
It wouldn't bother me, either way. I've been in serious relations with girls who did and didn't have tattoos. If I loved a girl enough to consider marrying her, what ink she did or didn't have on her body wouldn't even factor in, let alone be a deal breaker.
Because they're stereotyping. It's true that everyone doesn't fit the stereotype but typically, tattoo-less guys won't want to marry a girl that is heavily tattoo'd. Maybe because of the contrast? Personality differences? Are tattoo'd guys saying they wouldn't marry a tattoo'd girl?
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Well, I always think that girls with tattoos are promiscuous but it doesn't mean I really like her tattoos. Personally, majority of tattoos look trashy and flashy no matter how expensive the tattoos are. I had several relationships with tattooed women but usually they wouldn't last for more than a few months. Besides emotional drama, I also got tired of looking at the same pictures on their bodies everyday. Now I am currently happy with non tattooed cutie and has been with her for more than a year.
Do I want to marry a woman with tattoos? Definitely not because she has injected herself with toxic. If you go online, there are so many researchers that have stated about tattoo ink toxicity. The negative effects won't bite you now but those particles of tattoo inks may degrade your internal organs slowly.
It means those girls are great in the sex category, but are now ostracized from the relationship category. Some guys just don't like committing to a girl with tattoos. And I get why because a lot of girls who end up having problems, especially in a relationship and marriage, often have tattoos. Not all, but a lot.
I don't mind girls with tattoos personally, I don't see them differently from a girl without. If anything I'll admire it if it's an amazing piece of art done to her, or done right. I will say I'm not fond of random homie tats, with a poorly done butterfly on a random spot, and a silly quote in cursive she'll regret later haha.
guys say a lot of sh*t like this, but then they turn around and marry some girl with lots of tats. don't worry about it, and don't take it too seriously.
It's just a stereo-type. Ignore those ignorant guys.
I would never be with any man that has a problem with tattoos. If he has a concern with them, I guarantee he will have many issues with many other things as well. It is just not worth the trouble.
Tattoos tend to go hand-in-hand with smoking and/or whoring (things some guys don't like in girls).
Well I don't smoke anything and I'm certainly not a whore. Yet I have almost a complete half sleeve and 7 other tattoos.
Haha yeah I know what you mean.
That's stupid. They say it because they're stupid.
I won’t even get to know one.
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