or should I just lower my standards right now? I just find myself attracted to the gorgeous girls, the kind that are all innocent and beautiful looking and have stellar personalities, but yet I find myself not even on their radar, or like by some miracle a girl will tell me I'm a great guy and to never change. but if I'm not getting the girl now, aren't I doing something wrong? like I don't do drugs or anything and I'm totally a stereotypical good guy. and nice to everyone and I feel that most people respect me. but my luck with girls is non-existent.
can a guy like me find a beautiful girl? I'm not at all bad looking. but I wouldn't say I'm like a flawlessly attractive, defined jaw/body model-looking guy either no homo.
Women are hard wired to find a guy who makes them feel comfortable. Many things fit the criteria.
Often we see it as gold digging, but in reality they are just doing what is inertly breed into their DNA. They want to be with a man who can be a good provider, who has confidence, makes them feel safe, comfortable and secure about themselves. And then they want a guy who can make them laugh and a guy they can trust.
Many woman wonder why guys are not interested in them because they have a few extra pounds. Are you willing to consider a nice young lady who struggles with her weight? Or is that considered lowering your standards? My point is what is important to men is looks, what is important to women is not him being a nice guy (it is expected), they have standards too.
Being a nice guy is what they expect of any guy they date, it is not enough as a stand alone thing. Find a girl who is as much into you as you are into her.. and if that means lowering your standards, maybe your standards are too high.
You'll hopefully end up with a good girl equal in your looks.
God you're so shallow.
To all these people saying yes have none of you realize he is saying that since he's a good person he deserves beauty? Has no one noticed all dating advice for men is geared to getting the hottest girl and women to not be picky about looks and settle for character, Why It's OK To Settle For Mr. Good Enough (book)?
Look at what you want and what you can offer do they match?
Expecting *anything* more than what you have to offer is shallow and useless.
Also if you handsome man? If you're not you're not entitled to a beautiful woman.
You can want one, pursue one, and get one.
But you're not entitled to anything in this world.
Girls shouldn't date you because you're a good guy they should date you because they are physically & sexually attracted to you and want to be with you.
Good is what's required of being a decent human being.
Sorry but filling that out doesn't entitle you to a beautiful girlfriend.
As far as I can tell there are quite a few men on this site(and men I know personally) that have problems with standards. All the guys on this site with this problem(who usually don't let you know who they are or see pictures) claim to be attractive, smart, good jobs, great personality blah blah blah... Want to know how to get specifically beautiful and great personality girls. Well I say if you're boasting about how great you are let us see if you deserve a beautiful lady like you all seem to believe.
No one deserves anything other that what they work hard for. If you want the girl of your dream bring yourself up to her level.
I'm not saying there is anything wrong with you and it's normal to fancy people who are more attractive than you are.
What I am saying is what's with all these chicken liver guys who have no balls when it come to women?
Absolutely good men find good gorgeous women! The only thing that ever turned me off to a good guy was his sense of desperation. He was good looking, muscular, smart and so sweet. I just couldn't deal with how desperate he seemed to find the "good girl." I'm not saying you're like this but I wanted to be as helpful as possible. You seem like a good guy ;)
sure.this girl from my school-she's always been considered perfect-every guy I've spoken to says she's beautiful,and she's smart too,and her boyfriend is just...the nicest guy ever-he's not some ''hunk'' with perfect abs,he's shorter than her,and he doesn't dress like some model either,but she adores him,and they're adorable together.try showing that you're interested,tease a little,but not too much-otis will lead you to ze ladies link
yesssssssss but it takes time! I consider my sister a beautiful woman and she's been through all the ****s even if they were good looking they were never worthy of her and treated her like sh*t and she did try to run away numerous times but they weren't having it. and now she's with this guy who isn't particularly good looking or ugly, but his personality makes him that much more attractive I just think they are perfect, she's 30 now by the way.
Yes. Your a good guy so obviously you good chances are yes you will be with a beautiful woman. Why ask? this is you who should be answering this =P you know the answer. You know whose beautiful and you will end up finding the girl of your desire.
off course you can, we just like to play around with the bad ones for a while and get our heart broken a few times, then we live and learn and start to look at the good guys in a different light. Or if you find someone that is lucky and have good selfestem from the start she will diss the bad ones and go for you straight away. Just start to think differently, if you think you are unlucky you will be, if you think you are lucky you will be
yea it is possible...i'm beautiful and my boyfriend is a great guy
honestly girls have to get to the point where they can really appreciate what a good guy brings to the table and the only way they can learn that is to date at least one bad one and even then some will try a few before they realize they can't change or fix them that if they want a good guy they need to go get one.
well you know what ? I'm always on their (the beautiful women) radar. Do you know how annoying is ? when all of them expect me to do something and I don't know what to do, however is I approach them in a formal way, its not attractive to them. For example today in the bus a young girl was giving me the eyes at the station stop and after I was getting ready get off, she touched my back while passing by. They flirt with me everywhere, touch me, get on my shoes, and all by mistake! lol
You should be with me because I attract them but I lack friends. I also have high standards, but that only limits my options, we should be more tolerant.
Glad you said good and not nice. There's hope for you if this is the case. If you were just a nice guy, you'd be with the many men who live lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them. These nice guys have been told that if they stay docile and don't stray too far from what their emasculated role models did, they will be fine and things will go okay for them. However, if you are on a life and course of adventure, have a battle to fight, and desire to rescue the beauty, then you have quite a lot to offer a woman. Don't be afraid to ask a beautiful woman out. Even if she says no, she is appreciates you asking. Continue to be the good guy, not the one who backs down from fighting for what is right. Be the guy who does not let a woman go unprotected or unappreciated.
Heh guys like you are the worst, your post screams:
1) You falsely believe you are a good guy just because you constantly acquiesce to women.
2)This belief that you are a good guy (you're not) means that you deserve a beautiful woman
These attitudes reveal your belief of self entitlement and that you view these women as mere trophies, but also that you lack self-respect because you considered lowering your standards. You blame everything on luck and fate because it's the easy way out of dealing with your own cowardice. Disgusting.
yes when they are 30 and jaded, fow now NO. Let's be honest these women have higher standards because their beauty lets them do it, so thry will want guys to be really funny, leader like, sporty, esponteneous and have a higher social status and I won't lie about physical attractiveness either and so on. Just being nice won't get you there unforunately.