or should I just lower my standards right now? I just find myself attracted to the gorgeous girls, the kind that are all innocent and beautiful looking and have stellar personalities, but yet I find myself not even on their radar, or like by some miracle a girl will tell me I'm a great guy and to never change. but if I'm not getting the girl now, aren't I doing something wrong? like I don't do drugs or anything and I'm totally a stereotypical good guy. and nice to everyone and I feel that most people respect me. but my luck with girls is non-existent.
can a guy like me find a beautiful girl? I'm not at all bad looking. but I wouldn't say I'm like a flawlessly attractive, defined jaw/body model-looking guy either no homo.
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Women are hard wired to find a guy who makes them feel comfortable. Many things fit the criteria.
Often we see it as gold digging, but in reality they are just doing what is inertly breed into their DNA. They want to be with a man who can be a good provider, who has confidence, makes them feel safe, comfortable and secure about themselves. And then they want a guy who can make them laugh and a guy they can trust.
Many woman wonder why guys are not interested in them because they have a few extra pounds. Are you willing to consider a nice young lady who struggles with her weight? Or is that considered lowering your standards? My point is what is important to men is looks, what is important to women is not him being a nice guy (it is expected), they have standards too.
Being a nice guy is what they expect of any guy they date, it is not enough as a stand alone thing. Find a girl who is as much into you as you are into her.. and if that means lowering your standards, maybe your standards are too high.