I know it's a terrible thing to say, but I really don't like fat people for various reasons (it's my own selfish view, I know) and I just found out the guy I'm dating used to be pretty fat and nerdy looking. He's OK now, could tone his body some more, but he runs marathons and exercises. I would say he's of average size, even though he used to be at least 50 lbs. over weight 2 years ago. I'm a bit afraid he'll start overeating again and become fat. What do you think I should do to see if he has a history of being overweight or if he'll likely go back to being heavy? What is the cycle of this?
He used to be fat, and I hate fat people.
What Guys Said 3
Okay, you don't like fat people, and don't want to date them... fine. That's understandable. Here's my problem... your issue with this guy isn't that he's fat... it's that he USED to be fat. You have completely disregarded the fact that he's managed to lose 50 lbs (which isn't easy), runs in marathons, exercises, and is genuinely trying to improve the quality of his life. In other words, you are so blinded by what he was that you can't see him for who he is.
I agree with TimeandTimeAgain... he deserves better than you.1
lets just say move on before you cause the guy some real harm...a lot of women tend to gain weight as the get older so watch out... BOOO!1
What Girls Said 3
Just tell him how you feel and break up with him because I don't think he deserves to be with someone who hates fat people. Like WTF!8
Losing weight is an awesome accomplishment but, keeping it off, sticking with the healthy choices, exercising and not going back to those horrible habits is a stupendous accomplishment. There's a lot of "cycles" that humans go through when struggling with weight issues and there all different. So what he needs is someone who will support, understand, will NOT judge him and will still like/love him even if he does become "fat" again. And from they way you inputted your question it seems like you wouldn't be able to do that for him. 1 reason is because you hate fat people 2nd reason you couldn't understand him since you've ALWAYS been in "shape". And I would like to add that this thee most cruel and ignorant post I've read. You also should just look for a man who is skinny or your type and that has history that you approve of.1
I hate to tell you, but anybody could become fat in the future, and it could happen due to a multitude of reasons. It doesn't matter if they used to be fat or skinny. There's no way of knowing if they are or aren't going to gain weight later on unless you're psychic. If that's your reasoning for not wanting to be with someone, then anybody you date has the possibility of letting you down.2
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