I have been dating this guy who's btw 10 years older than me. So he's pretty much more experienced in every way and well-settled in his life (great job and busy life styles) except finding his right one. We been going out for about a month and I really like him. It was great at the start until he withdrew himself lately because he found out I might be leaving australia in about 2 years time and may never come back (at least that's what he told me why he didn't hang out with me much recently). But I didn't want this to be end. So one day I invited him over to my place and after watching some dvds he kissed me and one thing led the other, we ended up naked in bed. He knew I was a virgin so he didn't expect me to have any moves while trying to guide me thru.even tho for most of times I found myself akwardly laying on the bed without knowing what to do. I wasn't very much relaxed and enjoyed but he seemed all excited and in the end he helped himself, we didn't do it in the end because he politely asked me and I said no. After that, he didn't contact me and it's been 4 days, I couldn't help wondering if me being a virgin (inexperienced sexually) can be a turn-off for guys like him. I know this kind of question really depends on people and situations. But I felt insecure of the our situation, it's like the guy already told me he felt pointless to hang out with me because I might be leaving, but I still initated contacts and ended up getting closer 'physically'. I'm so pathetic am i?
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Ok, I'm going to try to answer this in a correct manner. Being a virgin is not a turn off.in anyway. Now I will tell you that having sex with a virgin is never going to be what the guy was hoping for, so there is no need to be concerned with that. No, your NOT pathetic, your inexperienced. Now what I am going to tell you, might not be what you want to hear. The reason this guy has not talked to you in the last few days is because you teased him. It really does not matter who started things off at your place that day, because YOU ended up naked in bed with this guy. The only way this could be different is if he forced you, but you mentioned nothing that leads me to believe that happened. Anyway, like I said you ended up in bed with him, so you lead him to believe that you were going to have sex with him, and when he asked you said NO. Now, in no way shape or form am I telling you to go run off and give this guy some just so he will spend time with you until you leave. When your ready, your ready, just make sure that's what you really want.2