Everytime I talk with a stranger who's female - as long as I have something to say/do/etc to keep the energy alive, everything rolls smoothly.. But the minute I'm quiet, a girl starts to talk about drama/ex's/etc.. (Specificity: "Tom and angeli just broke up! I know it's crazy.. they've been together so long.." // "Wow my boyfriend is so dumb.. last night he wouldn't pick me up from the bar, so I had to call a cab...'blahblahblah')...
What's stunning to me, is that it happens with the same girl I was just entertaining.. Is this just me, or does this happen to you guys too? Cause it's a huge turn off and I'm wondering if I'm sending the wrong sign, or maybe these girls are trying to squash attraction, or ..? who knows what else?
I'm a bit sarcastic when that happens so I just say, "yeah this session for therapy is $1000, I'm totally serious." They laugh and I keep on rolling. "Yeah, I'm a certified therapist, rated #1 in America." etc etc. But that is just my style. And I do get fed up with girls who can't add to a conversation.
Conversation is like a dance, where each takes turn leading and following. If she can't properly dance, I consider her a no-personality type person.
In my opinion, I think the girl feels a bit nervous about the silence and talks about whatever comes to mind including gossip or exes or whatever.
You can actually tell if a girl likes you. And as long as she doesn't talk to you about other guys she likes, you're clear.
Usually, for me, when I like a guy, it's only normal I'd talk about meaningless stuff (I'm sort of a goofy spontaneous person who says whatever I have in mind) but mostly, I'd never EVER talk about other guys I find hot or like. That's direct code for friend zone.
Yea I think you may be sending a I-want-to-be-your-friend signal and girls LOVE talking about the guys they are most interested in at the time.
what do you like to talk about with a girl? I think sometimes girls say things to test you or to get to know you better? I try to stay away from that crap but sometimes its the guy who brings it up.when you first meet I def don't think its a good idea.
I see it with many girls, but not all. The ones I know in person and around generally don't :) I like girls like that. They try and add with cool stuff. This one girl I really like a lot right now, she talks about the most interesting things every time and I love talking to her :P wish she'd talk more though, she's often distant and ya.
I'd like to be able to say that. When things get quiet, things get awkward for me. It's not an enjoyable experience, kinda disheartening and really uncomfortable lol
I certainly have, though mostly online. As soon as there's a lull in the conversation:
"So there's this guy I kinda want to hook up with..."
"I'm really upset because my boyfriend did ______"
"I had a sh*tty day. Some guy I was trying to get with called me ugly to his friends"
"omg so I met this guy and he's tall and sexy but I still miss my ex ;_;"
I can understand why you would want to talk about guys to your close girlfriends, but I really don't see the reason for doing so to some random guy on the internet. Your friends can sympathize better, and if you're looking for advice, then they know you and your situation a lot better than I do. It's still preferable to talking with girls whose idea of conversation is "lol" as a response to everything you say.