The only guy I ever liked was my best friend. We used to hook up and he knew I liked him. But he ended up dating my ex-best friend. SHe weighs like 110 pounds and they have been together for over a year now. He has said to me the only reason we never dated was because of my weight. I am in college now and really don't talk to him but, are all guys like that.
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No, all guys are not like that. But most insecure guys are.
When I was in junior high school, there was a girl that I thought was really cute. I had a pretty significant crush on her, but I was mortified that people would laugh at me if I began dating her (yeah, like 14 year olds can really date) because she was overweight. In truth, I was pretty insecure about myself.
You see, I was also overweight, and this led to my being ridiculed by a lot of people as I was growing up (the late grade school and junior high years were the worst). I was the type of person that, by the time I was 14, tried not to draw any undue negative attention to myself, and I knew that people would rail on me for dating an overweight girl, so I opted not to ask her out.
Now, happy ending . . . we did end up dating later when we were in high school, and we dated for about 5 years before realizing we weren't meant to be together. By that time, I had long overcome my insecurity about myself, and I even told her one night about why I never asked her out in the first place (turns out she had a crush on me back in junior high as well).
If you used to "hook up" with this guy -- I'm assuming that means you were sexually active with him -- and he still didn't date you because of your weight, then I would have to say that he DEFINITELY had a self-esteem issue, and probably didn't want anyone ridiculing him for dating someone that he thought was overweight. It's probably a good thing that you didn't end up dating him after all. I'm sorry he put you through this, and I hope that your friendship can survive something like this. But if it can't, you're probably better off without him in your life.