when ever we are at family parties I feel like there is sexual tension between us but she has a husband and kids. I was just wondering if it is just too weird and I should just completly stop thinking about her in that way.
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Depends, is she good looking? :D
When I was a kid (about, what, 9?) I thought my aunt was good looking, and she used to coddle (spoil) me. I wouldn't call it "sexual" per say, because my mind didn't really think that way, but I did like being with her, near her, etc.
I'm 29 now, and whilst there's no sexual attraction, there's still a weird feeling being near her that is almost like being near an ex.
I can imagine that, in other circumstances, the feelings I had could grow into a sexual attraction. So I won't say it's "weird or gross", because I can understand how it could come about. It is inappropriate though.
You have to options.
1: Live with it
2: Train yourself out of it (cognitive behavior therapy).
If you can live with it, and don't see it as an issue, then so be it. But given you've asked the question, I'd imagine you probably want to stop feeling that way. CBT can work, but it'll take soe time.
You're not alone.
Oh for what it's worth, one of my neighbours is a 20yr old university student, and she has an 8yr old nephew. If that kid grows up and DOESN'T have a crush on her I'd be surprised (she's cute as a button).